DiscussingFilm on X - "First look at ‘STEPS’, a new animated film that follows Cinderella’s evil stepsisters who are actually depicted as kind & misunderstood Starring Ali Wong and Stephanie Hsu as the stepsisters Releasing in 2026 on Netflix"
Paul Anleitner on X - "Girls have been hit particularly hard with “what you were told was evil is a misunderstood good” messaging.
•Wicked
•Maleficent
•Cruella
What’s the end result of internalizing this message throughout your childhood? A moral compass that has no sense of true north."
Niels Hoven 🐮 on X - "It’s interesting to see the rejection of the cultural tradition that for hundreds of years, children’s stories were basically warnings that “There are bad people in the world and they will try to trick you”. There was the evil witch in Hansel and Gretel who lures kids with candy in order to eat them. In China, Monkey saves his naive, softhearted friends from evil demons and scolds them: “You can’t take pity on a demon!” Those kinds of cautionary tales are now being replaced by a new cultural morality in stories like Wicked that say “no one is really evil, there are only misunderstood people who were wronged by society” This new narrative certainly reflects a more comforting perspective about the world we live in, but are children truly better off for it? Does a false sense of security, secretly maintained only by the presence of powerful adults, really prepare kids for the challenges of the real world? Ironically, I think the traditional stories are more empowering, as they give kids the tools to keep themselves safe as they explore the world independently."
Niels Hoven 🐮 on X - "When we tell kids that no one is really evil, we rob them of the tools to keep themselves safe"
Carlos Marinkovic on X - "kid's movies are not for kids anymore. they really are about the gripes the writers have about their childhood, mental health, inclusion, therapy culture. everyone is 12 now, and these movies are for them."
Niels Hoven 🐮 on X - "Old movies used to be about growing up and taking on responsibilities. Now they’re about never growing up"
Why does my (32F) friend (32F) think it’s disgusting that I kiss and hug my husband (33M) when he gets home from work? Secondly, why is kissing him on the cheek weird? : r/relationship_advice - "I’ve (32F) been with my husband (33M) for 9 years. We got married on our second anniversary of dating and we have had two sons (6, 4) and a daughter (1) since. My husband works a corporate job and I’m a SAHM. I absolutely love my husband, I don’t know how to describe it but he’s everything and more I could possibly want in a husband and the father of my children. In the first few months after our eldest’s birth, we were both very tired and exhausted and there was some growing resentment between us. During that time, one day, I randomly just hugged and kissed my husband the moment he got home from work. Something just clicked that day and I never stopped doing this. Even two more kids later, it doesn’t matter if we’re having an argument or one of us is in a rush to go somewhere, I’m damn well going to hug and kiss my husband when he comes home from work and he always returns the favor if he’s home and I come back from brunch with my girlfriends or Pilates or wherever. One of my girlfriends stops by once or twice a week on her way home from work and we’ll have a coffee and chat for a couple of minutes. Yesterday, for the first time, she was still at our place when my husband got home from work. As usual, I went to the door to greet my husband with a hug and a kiss. Afterwards, he told me to go sit down with my girlfriend peacefully and he would watch the kids for however long. My girlfriend questioned what the hug and kiss was for and I just told her that it was something my husband and I do whenever one of us gets home from somewhere. She thought I was joking and when she realized I was serious, she said it was barbaric and disgusting” and went on a tangent about how any affection should be “earned” and not just “given”. She left soon after and the only thought I had was “that explains why she can’t keep a man”. Personally, I’ve come to see our routine as me leaning into my husband’s warm embrace knowing that he has my back however emotionally and/or physically tired I may be and him knowing that he always has a loving, peaceful home no matter how stressful work or any external influences may be. I’m just wondering why my friend sees affection in this light and why she thought that a kiss and a hug between a husband and wife was disgusting. A few weeks ago, this same friend had an issue when I posted a picture on instagram of me kissing my husband on the cheek during a surprise mini-party I threw for his birthday. She said that cheek kisses are strictly platonic and are pointless for a committed, romantic relationship. In my opinion, there aren’t any strict rules about what’s platonic and what’s romantic. I love kissing my husband on the cheek and he’ll often do the same to me. I’m normally pretty good at keeping third parties out of our marriage but this friend’s contradictory and ridiculous statements are clouding my mind. How should I go about this? I have nothing against cutting her off, I just want an unbiased opinion."
Meme - "How do I tell my husband that he is no longer good enough for me?
I got fit. I got promoted. There are dozens of men at my work that are better looking, drive better cars, stay in larger homes, that have manifested interest in me. I decided I deserve more and better."
Courtney Gieseke: "Facts. I told my second husband when we got married that he was the best I could do without doing less of work on myself. Then I did, so I met someone knew, fell in love, got laid a lot and told #2 he could deal or leave. Husband #3 is definitely better. Cuz men are disposable"
Mia♡ on X - "The way men switch up when they realize you aren't going to sleep with them is honestly terrifying"
Wilfred Reilly on X - "You go back to being treated as nicely as a male buddy, sis."
When someone is accustomed to privilege, equality feels like oppression
Bob Kostic on X - "A single man knows why he's single. A single woman has 47 theories and none of them involve her"
Meme - "BLA"
"BLA BLA BLA BLA BLA BLA BLA BLA BLA BLA BLA BLA BLA BLA BLA BLA BLA"
"I've seen many creative ways to indicate the men's and women's toilet but this one left me speechless!"
brittany on X - "At 16, boys used to want to be men. They lied about their age and stormed the beaches of Normandy. Now, men in their 30s can’t even commit to a woman who loves them. Boys once fought to become men. Today, men fight to stay boys. - Thoughts from @KatKanada_TM 🪖"
Rock Solid on X - "“Men used to go to war” You forgot the crucial detail that they had something to die for. Nobody’s dying for a girl with ten bodies and an OnlyFans link in her bio"
Chris Williamson on X - "Why are so many young men single? Are men excluded from a brutal mating market by society? It seems not. Men were asked: “When was the last time you asked a woman in person for a date on the street/in a bar or club/at school or class/at work/at a hobby or social gathering/other location?” 45% of men aged 18-25 have never approached a woman in person. Never. This isn’t primarily because of #MeToo either - between 60% & 70% of men cited cited “fear of rejection” as why they don’t approach. This is actually a whitepill: it isn’t the powerful forces of society at large that explain young male singledom. It’s much more mundane. Young men are simply not trying. There is a lot out of your control, but at the end of the day one thing is clear: if you’re afraid to talk to women you’re not going to meet very many women. Women are not just going to fall into your lap. And before we look for the systemic roots of modern dating woes we should look at individual behaviour. The amount of men who simply are not trying, who believe everything is out of their control, seems to explain a lot of it. Some people will read this and say “but I’m in the bottom 1% of men and I have approached a thousand women, no bites.” OK - you’re a special case. Your situation is not why 50% of Zoomers are single. More of you will read this and know: “that’s me, I haven’t asked a woman on a date in a year.” That’s totally in your control. It may be hard or frightening, but it’s a choice. — @datepsych"
Meme - "Literally me characters for girls
-No personality
-No purpose
-always wins, even though no one cares
*Captain Marvel, Rey, Barbie*
Literally me characters for girls
-Feels most alive when life is in danger.
-thinks it's kinda funny how expendable their lives are.
-Will do anything for their boys.
*Patrick Bateman from American Psycho, King Baldwin IV from Kingdom of Heaven, Rick O'Connell from The Mummy, Marin Riggs from Lethal Weapon*"
My husband told me why he cheated on me : r/AmIOverreacting - "It just came to my attention that my husband has been cheating on me on and off for 2 years. He started cheating on me while I was pregnant because I didn’t feel like having sex due to pregnancy symptoms. He cheated on me with two different women. The first girl was a stranger he just met when he was out one night. But there’s this one girl in particular that he keeps having sex with. They’ve been friends with benefits for almost a year now. I asked my husband WHY. WHY WOULD HE DO THIS TO ME. We have a family together, we built a life together, and he threw away 8 years for a girl that hasn’t even graduated college yet? He said to me, “she’s beautiful. She’s quiet, she’s simple, she’s not annoying. She doesn’t nag me. She doesn’t argue, she’s not combative. She’s not fat and she’s not lazy. She’s fun, she’s spontaneous. I forget about my troubles when I’m around her. She makes my life easier oppose to complicating it like you. She’s just everything that you’re not anymore but you use to be. She’s a younger version of you. She reminded me of you 15 years ago” I’m honestly still processing. It doesn’t feel like it’s real, I keep thinking I’m going to wake up from this nightmare. I feel so bad about myself. Everything he said to me actually made me feel worse than when I found out about his affair"
Was she wearing red? The function of victim‐blaming in women's intrasexual competition - "Previous research indicates that women frequently use red clothing to signal their sexual receptivity, with men and women both recognizing this as a reliable cue to such receptivity. Nonetheless, receptivity cues can inform perceptions of women's culpability for experiencing sexual assault. Thus, women experiencing sexual assault could become more of a target for victim-blaming if assaulted while wearing red. Such victim-blaming could be especially apparent especially among those who believe the world is just. The current study presented a sexual assault vignette to American undergraduates (155 women, 66 men) describing a woman wearing either red or green whom participants evaluated for the degree of culpability she has for the assault. Results indicated that the red-wearing target was viewed as more culpable for the assault, particularly for women with heightened just-world beliefs. We frame results from an evolutionary framework considering victim-blaming as part of women's intrasexual competition."
Clearly, this is due to 'patriarchy'!
Rich 🐺 on X - "I figured out why Indians are so obsessed with the "onlyfans" insult. Many of the OF "model agencies" hire call center workers in India / Philippines to pretend to be the girls online to reply to DMs and chat with subscribers. Indians have to pretend to be the woman, and do horribly degrading things like plead with the men to send them lewd photos of themselves and engage in sexting with MEN for 8 hour shifts at a time with multiple men at a time. It has become a huge new industry in India. So these OF chats are pretty much just Indians chatting with other Indians engaging in all kinds of sexual fantasies and I think it has fried their brains. From the articles I found, it seems to be almost entirely men working these call center gigs. I can't imagine a more lowly existence. Would rather be a mall janitor than what they lower themselves to doing regularly."
Why are so many university-educated women ditching their careers for OnlyFans? - "“If a woman feels fulfilled, motivated, passionate, driven about working a nine-to-five professional role, that is great,” she adds. “Equally though, if a woman wants to pivot left, go exploring more novelty on something like OnlyFans, that is their choice. As long as they have thought about it, weighed up all the risks and benefits, what is good for them psychologically, emotionally, and financially, who are we to judge?”"
OnlyFans becomes popular income source for college students facing rising costs - "The psychological impact of students posting to OnlyFans is also alarming experts, with New York City-based psychotherapist Jonathan Alpert warning about the concerning trend. "Psychologically, it offers instant gratification, attention, validation and income all at once," Alpert told Fox News Digital. "Those same rewards can create dependency and affect self-worth. Students risk tying their identity and confidence to clicks and subscribers. What is framed as independence often masks a deeper vulnerability." Jacobs echoes the same concerns, while warning parents that the rise of college students turning to OnlyFans to achieve online fame and fortune is threatening the future of family values. "If we keep moving and normalizing this type of behavior, then family values are going to be diminished," Jacobs said. "And how are you going to have those deep roots when you send your child off into the world so that they are able to control themselves and restrain themselves from certain things?""
Contrast between "autonomy is the only good" and "people do things they later regret" ("Harry Potter tattoos" being an obvious example), even if you ignore the societal ramifications
Study: heterosexual men report experiencing orgasm in 90% of their sexual encounters, compared to 54% for women. This research also found that men tend to focus more on their own orgasm and feel supported in that pursuit by their partners, while women are more focused on their partner’s pleasure. : r/psychologyofsex
Of course, when men want their female partners to orgasm, this is framed as being to satisfy their egos (so they are still bad people because they want to boost their egos)
The researchers say a broader look at sexual satisfaction is better than focusing on orgasm equality
Low desire is one of the most common sexual complaints, especially among women. While many factors can contribute to low desire, it's often because the sex they're having is painful, not pleasurable, or obligatory. Increasing desire often starts with making sure you're having sex that's worth having : r/psychologyofsex - "I know I’ll get downvoted for this, but most men don’t care about women’s pleasure. If more men got off on getting their partner off, then women would be having better sex."
"Note the sidebar: "Posts should be based in scientific research".
'I know I’ll get downvoted for this, but most men don’t care about women’s pleasure.'
Do you have any reference for this claim? I'll give a few references that points in the opposite direction; informal and academic. First, since we're on Reddit, we can start with the informal reference of "What does r/AskMen say"? A post titled How much do men care about the female orgasm? contains comments about this; all the men says they care about women's orgasms in relationships, many that they care greatly. One says they don't care much when it's just a hookup. Anecdotally, this also match my own behavior, partially because trying to chase orgasms in a hookup can be less pleasurable to the partner than if I don't.
Academic: I only found one direct study and it is old (1977). It points at 98% of men caring (Pietropinto & Simenauer 1977). You can see the numbers and a bit of summary in this old NYT article. While we can expect some cultural change, going from "2% don't care" to "most don't care" from 1977 to 2025 seems extremely unlikely, especially since my impression is that the direction has been towards caring more rather than less. In "The Object Of Sexual Desire" (Mark et al 2014), they tried to find out what men and women desired in terms of sex. From the abstract:
'Men were significantly more likely to endorse desire for sexual release, orgasm, and pleasing their partner than were women.'
Ie, men care about women's pleasure. “He Enjoys Giving Her Pleasure”: Diversity and Complexity in Young Men’s Sexual Scripts (Morrison et al 2015) says the following in the abstract:
'In the scenarios, we found both a traditional masculine “player” script and a script that emphasized mutual sexual pleasure.'
If your experience is that men don't care, it seems that something results in you only getting the player script and not the mutual sexual pleasure script, even if most men care about the mutual sexual pleasure script.
References:
Mark, K., Herbenick, D., Fortenberry, D., Sanders, S., & Reece, M. (2014). The object of sexual desire: Examining the “what” in “what do you desire?”. The journal of sexual medicine, 11(11), 2709-2719. (PDF)
Morrison, D. M., Masters, N. T., Wells, E. A., Casey, E., Beadnell, B., & Hoppe, M. J. (2015). “He enjoys giving her pleasure”: Diversity and complexity in young men’s sexual scripts. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 44, 655-668. (PDF)
Pietropinto, A., & Simenauer, J. (1977). Beyond the male myth: What women want to know about men's sexuality.
Ware, S., Thorpe, S., & Dyson, Y. D. (2020). " Knowing That You're Pleasing the Other Person Makes It Even Better": Perceived pleasure and motives for condom use among heterosexual Black college men in the south. Journal of Black Sexuality and Relationships, 6(3), 49-69. (link)"
"I find it interesting that I have literally never heard this complaint from gay men, despite having overwhelmingly male partners. Which is to say, I don't think this is a "men don't care" problem"
"I have been with many many women who do not want to have an orgasm. They insist that they only want to pleasure me. What am I supposed to do, force an orgasm on them?"
CLearly, if men don't force women to come, this is the orgasm gap and proof that women are being oppressed
Beyond the pink pill: What today’s pioneers of female desire now know - The Globe and Mail - "Like other researchers and educators, he stresses the paramount importance of women getting to know their own "sexual landscapes" and showing their partners how to navigate the terrain, instead of hoping they're telepathic and can figure it all out on their own"
Time to shame men for being unable to pleasure women
The Radicalisation of Young Women - "In this video essay, Quillette founder Claire Lehmann explores the global rise in political radicalisation among young women. Drawing on recent data, psychological research, and cultural trends, she examines how ideological movements, institutions, and technology are shaping a new form of gender polarisation. Far from the simplistic narratives of empowerment or oppression, this video presents a more complex—and urgent—story about identity, agency, and modern activism."
She talks about how phones, social media and the nature of female friendships and female sensitivity to harm play into this
Meme - "Why is it that when a woman doesn't trust her man it's called INTUITION But when a man doesn't trust his woman it's called INSECURE? - Modern Madness"
Meme - Upset woman: "Splitting 50/50 in a restaurant"
Happy woman: "Splitting 50/50 in a divorce"
Meme - "Paula, 41. Exact match. This person meets all your preferences.
I want a man that I can trust with my life, someone who trusts me.] want a man who is faithful and loving and someone that is confident and proud of me.I want someone who will be there for me even when it's hard to be. Someone willing to be my everything. Yup, I want summa dat!!! And sexy muscles and a nice big schlong is nice to!!! Just sayin..."
Meme - Topmasculine @topmasculine: "Victim card starts after spent all money! This is the former wife and children mother of NBA Star Dwayne Wade. She received 5 million dollars in their divorce settlement and Dwayne got custody of the children She is now homeless and requesting assistance from Dwayne Wade. Should he assist her?"
Clearly, the problem was she didn't get enough
Meme - kakhoza: "GIRL TO GIRL... If you can't stop looking at luxury, it's because you're meant to be RICH. Period."
Samuel Dauda: "The delusion of women needs to be studied. "You are meant to be rich" That's not how life works dear."
Meme - "This person (28F) frequently complains on social media about how badly guys treat her. I (35M) am genuinely starting to hate dating."
"I'm 5'6 .I don't have any kids. And I'd be lying. If I said, I didn't want a relationship because I do but I also don't want to rush into anything but dating fucking sucks nowadays. Would you be down to be like my sugar, daddy or something. Maybe like buy me stuff and help me with my bills"
"This shit is ridiculous."
Meme - "r/thepassportbros
Women do this passport movement just as much as men do... you just don't hear about it!"
"when all your friends are getting married but you're at the airport again gearing up for your next European summer romance"
"It's very common for women to go to other counties especially Europe and SE Asia, and look for romance or just for ex. You never hear them getting geting shamed for it tho lol..."
Meme - "Single moms coming together on social media to comment under Father's Day posts *Avengers Endgame girl power scene*"
Sarah Stock ✟ on X - ">man sharing his appreciation for something his wife does for him
>top comments all women seething that his wife ‘does everything for him’"
