#MenToo on X - "Here's the latest exercise in blaming and shaming - The New Yorker sneers at commentators talking about why men are struggling. Men are the patriarchy. They are whining about erosion of their unjustified male privilege. They don't have any problems and, if they do, it's their own damned fault."
VICE on X - "Managing his stress. Interpreting his moods. Holding his hand through feelings he won’t share with anyone else. All of it unpaid, unacknowledged, and often unreciprocated. Is it any wonder women are fed up?"
Dr Dani Sulikowski 🎗️ on X - "This is broadcast relationship sabotage. It's a type of intrasexual competition known as competitor manipulation. Women - in this case (and in most cases) - attempt to manipulate their rivals,so that their rivals behave in a way that is bad for the rivals' reproductive success. In this example, the normal support that couples in a healthy relationship offer to each other is maligned as "mankeeping". The strategy of such tactics is simple - skew women's relationship expectations to the point where they are unable to successfully have one. The references to "interpreting his moods" and "all of it unpaid" would be especially hilarious for the levels of inversion they presume, were it not for the fact that young, inexperienced women are out there internalising these suggestions."
John Markley on X - "Calling a man's girlfriend or wife "the person they're sleeping with" sounds like something out of an incel rant lol"
John Markley on X - "Possibly the funniest thing about all this is that "I should be paid to be nice to my own partner" is a position held pretty much exclusively by people who lament that capitalism is an evil system that discourages altruism and heartlessly reduces everything to a commodity."
Whatifalthist on X - "A significant amount of women live largely unconscious lives, to a greater degree than men in general and to a vastly greater degree than the male outliers. It’s not that they “don’t want to provide emotional labor”, it’s that the system has broken any faith in masculinity they had which would make them want to do so for a given man. If they provided emotional labor they would do so by finding a man they respect and just doing it automatically. Women as a demo very much resent society not giving them social rules that allow them be to unconscious. Almost every complaint of modern women about the world boils down to this. Since women are evolutionarily dependent on men and the system tells them they can’t, they’re stuck in a kind horrifying emotional double bind where they have to deny their own biology for social approval, another female need. The Left uses this screw to drive them crazy in a very cruel, planned way. I’ve seen the “I’m a girl boss for the girls but I secretly want a strong man” operating system destroy so many women my age. The thing is this is all a shit test. All this behavior is “how can we make the deal as bad for men as possible until they snap and tell us no.” It used to be that the last thing you could expect from women in relationships after you take cleaning, cooking, children and the rest was off the table was emotional support. Now they’re trying to take that off the table, not because it was planned but since the feminine does so unconsciously for men they don’t respect."
JACBailey on X - "Women: "men need to open up! Im done with men who dont! Theyre afraid to because of toxic masculinity!"
*men open up*
Women: "OMG, this is mankeeping! Either pay me like a therapist or stop talking to me about your problems, im so done with men, shut up!!!!""
Meme - danisha carter: "if men's mental health mattered (to men) they'd be creating safe spaces for themselves and each other, pursuing therapy, and creating community. instead, they perpetuate the very behaviors systems that have handicapped them in the first place, refuse to support or create community amongst each other, severely damage the women in their lives who try to care for them, and attack women online for not doing the work for them in replies to tweets like the one below lol."
"MEN'S MENTAL HEALTH MATTERS MEN'S MENTAL HEALTH MATTERS MEN'S MENTAL HEALTH MATTERS MEN'S MENTAL HEALTH MATTERS MEN'S MENTAL HEALTH MATTERS... Show more"
Readers added context they thought people might want to know: "Men's 'safe spaces' were ended when women sued for gender exclusion and won. Women ended men's safe spaces."
The Real Reason South Koreans Aren’t Having Babies - The Atlantic - "Lee is part of a boycott movement in South Korea—women who are actively choosing single life. Their movement—possibly tens of thousands strong, though it’s impossible to say for sure—is called “4B,” or “The 4 No’s.” Adherents say no to dating, no to sex with men, no to marriage, and no to childbirth. (“B” refers to the Korean prefix bi-, which means “no”.) They are the extreme edge of a broader trend away from marriage. By one estimate, more than a third of Korean men and a quarter of Korean women who are now in their mid-to-late 30s will never marry. Even more will never have children. In 1960, Korean women had, on average, six children. In 2022, the average Korean woman could expect to have just 0.78 children in her lifetime. In Seoul, the average is 0.59. If this downward drift continues, it will not be long before one out of every two women in the capital never becomes a parent. Many countries’ populations are aging and, in some cases, shrinking. In January, China recorded its first population decline since the 1960s, when the country had been racked by famine. America’s birth rate has been falling since the Great Recession (though 86 percent of American women still have at least one child by the time they’re in their 40s). But South Korea’s fertility rate is the lowest in the world. Marriage and children are more closely linked in South Korea than nearly anywhere else, with just 2.5 percent of children born outside of marriage in 2020, compared with an OECD average of more than 40 percent. For nearly 20 years, the Korean government has tried to encourage more marriages and more babies. In 2005, the government recognized low fertility as a matter of national importance and put forth its Framework Act on Low Birth Rate in an Aging Society, versions of which have been renewed every five years. The government has tried expanding maternity leave, offering couples bigger and bigger bonuses for having babies, and subsidizing housing in Seoul for newlyweds. The mayor there has proposed easing visa restrictions to import more cheap foreign nannies, while some rural governments fund bachelors seeking foreign brides. In 2016, the government published a “birth map” online showing how many women of reproductive age lived in different regions—a clumsy attempt to encourage towns and cities to produce more babies. It prompted a feminist protest with women holding banners that read my womb is not a national public good and baby vending machine. The map was taken down. In all this time, the country has spent more than $150 billion hoping to coax more babies into the world. None of its efforts are working. Many Korean metro systems have hot-pink seats designated for pregnant women, but when I visited Seoul in November, six months pregnant myself and easily tired, I was rarely able to snag a seat; they were filled with dozing elderly people. There are a lot of reasons people decide not to have a baby. Young Koreans cite as obstacles the high cost of housing in greater Seoul (home to roughly half the country’s 52 million citizens), the expense of raising a child in a hypercompetitive academic culture, and grueling workplace norms that are inhospitable to family life, especially for women, who are still expected to do the bulk of housework and child care. But these explanations miss a more basic dynamic: the deterioration in relations between women and men—what the Korean media call a “gender war.”... for the first time, men and women are now genuinely competing for jobs. The unemployment rate in Korea is relatively low, less than 4 percent, but it’s significantly higher for people in their 20s. Mandatory male military service—South Korea is still technically at war with North Korea—gives women what many men perceive as an advantage in the labor market, a head start of 18 months to two years... Many of the women I spoke with said that patriarchy and sexism haunted their earliest memories. Some had grown up waiting until all the men in their families had finished eating before sitting down to their cold leftovers. They’d watched their parents dote on their brothers. They’d been hit by fathers and sexually harassed at school. They’d grown up and gone to job interviews and promptly been asked about their marital status. But many said they had only come to articulate these experiences after encountering feminism—frequently online. They described a moment of awakening, perhaps even radicalization. They read about femicides, stalking, and digital sex crimes, known as molka, reported cases of which have been on the rise since 2011... Distrust and even hatred between women and men, Kim believes, are the key to understanding South Korea’s declining birth rate... If Korean women chafe at men’s expectations of them, the reverse is true as well. Men are still expected to be breadwinners, and they work an average of five more hours a week than women—40.6 hours versus 35.2. Many Koreans still expect that the man or his family will buy a newlywed couple’s home, even when both partners have careers. Indeed, one study found that parental income is a strong predictor of whether a man will marry, but has no effect on marriage rates for women... In a 2020 survey of 1,000 South Koreans in their 30s, more than half of men who did not wish to marry cited financial concerns as their main hesitation; a quarter of women said they were “happy living alone,” while another quarter named “the culture of patriarchy and gender inequality” as their chief objection to marriage. (Another recent survey by two matchmaking companies found that women were reluctant to marry because they anticipate an asymmetrical division of housework, whereas men hesitated because of “feminism.”)... Walking around Seoul, I began to wonder where the children were hiding. Throughout the city, I saw “no-kids zones”—restaurants and cafés with stickers on their door announcing the establishment’s no-kids policy... many Koreans see family as “a luxury good.”... her friends “kind of hate men, and they are afraid of them.”"
We are told that Patriarchy is universal, yet modernity has not depressed birth rates and feminism has not resulted in poisonous inter-gender relations worldwide
Anti-female science bias is 'debunked' by fresh study - "A milestone study on bias against women in science has been debunked - after nearly identical research found the opposite is true. An experiment, first published in 2012, asked 127 science professors to rate fictional CVs which were identical except for the name. They found the applicant named 'John' was rated as more competent, hireable and deserved a higher salary than the applicant called 'Jennifer'. But the findings - which have been cited more than 4,600 times - have now been thrown into question after a new group of scientists decided to rerun the study. Researchers from Rutgers University in New Jersey asked nearly 1,300 professors from more than 50 American institutions to rate the same application materials, but again with a different gendered name on the CV. This time, however, the female applicant was ranked as marginally more capable and appealing to work with - and the more hireable of the pair. She was also deemed worthy of a higher salary. The researchers said their findings challenge the longstanding narrative that women are under-represented in science, technology, engineering and mathematics. This, they believe, could be the reason that a leading science journal did not agree to their proposal to rerun the experiment. Nathan Honeycutt and Lee Jussim, lead authors of the study, said their application was rejected by Nature Human Behaviour. Dr Honeycutt said he believes they may have experienced pushback because the submission reviewers agreed with the original results... The scientists took their experiment elsewhere and the results have now been accepted by the journal Meta-Psychology. The original study, titled 'Science faculty's subtle gender biases favour male students', was published in the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences. It reads: 'Analyses indicated that the female student was less likely to be hired because she was viewed as less competent. 'We found that pre-existing subtle bias against women played a moderating role, such that subtle bias against women was associated with less support for the female student. 'These results suggest that interventions addressing faculty gender bias might advance the goal of increasing the participation of women in science.'"
Time to ignore this new study, since it doesn't fuel grievance mongering
Kate Rochelle Gough, Hamilton woman avoids jail after sexually assaulting a 14-year-old boy : r/MensRights - "in New Zealand, Before 2005, it was legal for women to sexually abuse boys. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_of_consent_in_Oceania In the example mentioned on the Wikipedia page, the female coach was not persecuted, just banned from her role as coach, that's it. https://www.smh.com.au/sport/coach-banned-for-sex-with-boy-13-20030618-gdgy6i.html I remember a case I saw where a boy was being sexually assaulted by his stepmother and couldn't do anything because it wasn't considered a crime, after the law changed, the man shared his horrific experience of what his stepmother did to him. Today, female sex offenders are persecuted, but the focus is more on their rehabilitation. The judicial system in New Zealand is truly biased and they don't hide it. An Auckland female teacher (whose name has now been released) who sexually abused a 15-year-old boy has been sentenced to home detention. https://www.stuff.co.nz/nz-news/360794471/former-teacher-who-groomed-teen-can-be-named-jail-term-quashed Another female teacher from Auckland (whose identity is unknown because the court categorically refused to name her) sexually abused an 11-year-old boy, 11 YEARS OLD!!! and she was sentenced to home detention. https://www.rnz.co.nz/news/national/575360/teacher-guilty-of-sexually-abusing-student-given-home-detention"
Tablesalt 🇨🇦🇺🇸 on X - "🚨NEW Canada is sending $643k to Myanmar To "strengthen women’s participation in landmine clearing" 😂😂 Explosively feminist! .... This is what happens when you force NGOs to check boxes to get money."
UK: Women are complaining of being filmed in public. OP: Utter hypocrisy when they are uged to post videos and pictures of men taken secretly. : r/MensRights - "The double standard here is off the scale. We have had women secretly taking pictures of men: Hot men on the tube. Hot men reading a book. Hot men Last week women were urged to send in pictures of partners penises."
Trans man 'blindsided' by the loneliness and suspicion that comes with being a man - "a trans man opened up about the “culture shock” of navigating male loneliness, and shared how, if they had been forced to grow up with the often insidious messaging boys and men receive, it would have really damaged their psyche. In a Reddit post, the man first got candid about the “social isolation” that comes from constantly being perceived as a "potential predator.” While he noted that “all strangers, no matter their gender, keep their guard up around me,” women in particular came across as “incredibly aloof, cold, and mirthless."... Then there’s the lack of "inherent camaraderie,” which is something the OP got to experience as a woman, but now, is hard won. “The fact that I don’t ambiently experience mutual kinship in basic exchanges anymore is an insanely lonely feeling,” he wrote, "I'm mourning the loss of a privilege I didn’t even know I had.” He added that the only way it’s acceptable for men to share platonic intimacy with one another is in the “very specific environment” often portrayed by the media, in activities that involve “being teamed up against an opposing force.” Otherwise, that type of emotional connection makes men seem “soft” and triggers “garden variety homophobia.” This led the OP to this tragic conclusion: “The human species looks so much colder standing from this side.” “It’s now blatantly clear to me that most cis men probably experience chronic emotional malnutrition. They're deprived of social connection just enough for it to seriously f**k with their psyches, but not enough for them to realize that it’s happening,” he wrote, adding that it certainly would have done a number on him mentally to have grown up that way."
How ignorant. Doesn't it know about male privilege?
Meme - "Aitah for showing my tits to jehovahs witnesses?
Removed from the other sub. Throwaway bc I dont want anyone to know about this ... I'm a newish homeowner, 40f. Bought my first house about 3 years ago. I love it but I constantly get people knocking on the door selling roofs, windows, whatever. No soliciting signs don't help. Interestingly though, I have never had jehovah's witnesses come by. So this morning I was getting ready for the day, doing my hair and makeup in a towel when someone knocks. Sometimes I don't answer but I was near the door so I open it. These 2 guys immediately see me in my towel and say "oh sorry ... " but don't leave. So, I, annoyed, ask "what do you want?". They seem a bit flustered and say "we want to talk to you about scripture, we are jw's". I really don't know what came over me, but without hesitation I say "oh! Jws!", open my towel and give them a little shimmy. One looks real upset and turns his head, the younger one looks shocked and takes a sec to turn off my porch. In the moment I think I'm hilarious and point one for feminist anarchy ... but after a bit I'm feeling really guilty. It's in my core not to disrespect people's religious beliefs, and I would never have done something like this if they weren't in my personal space. Is this an ah thing to do? I'm morally struggling."
It's only sexual assault if a man does it to a woman
James L. Nuzzo, PhD on X - "A not-so-insignificant number of academic papers written by women in the humanities involve women writing about themselves. These papers are then used in grant and promotion applications as evidence of "scholarly output."
An apology to my body: Mapping the changing relationship with my fat body, a reflection on childhood & PCOS"
Meme - Man: "What are you looking for in society?"
Woman: "Equal pay and power to men"
Man: "And what are you looking for in a relationship?"
Woman: "A man who makes more money and is more powerful!"
Meme - "Feminism in movies *Wonder Woman running across World War I No Man's Land*
Feminism in reality *female Secret Service agents ducking during Trump assassination attempt*"
Chinese male student cyberbullied and punished for arguing that women without children should not be entitled to preferential gender treatment. : r/MensRights - "For context, this is a video on the Chinese video-sharing platform Bilibili which is gaining a lot of traction in China. Its a presentation by a student of the East China University of Political Science and Law. For those unfamiliar with China, this is one of the top schools responsible for training future civil servants and other government workers. Such schools also tend to be women dominated. https://www.bilibili.com/video/BV1scCaYyECr?spm_id_from=333.788.videopod.sections&vd_source=de827165aef04bfda927906884d0dfb5 TLDR: He gave a presentation in which he listed the gender affirming polices in China that women has, including legal rules against women working in dangerous environments like mining, women get lighter sentences than men for the same crimes, and how women has state-backed rights organizations but not men. He also mentioned other cultural benefits women enjoy in Chinese society, like women generally being in charge of finances at home and the practice of "bride money" in marriages, which is legally protected as the personal wealth of the bride, ie, she does not have to refund it during divorce. He argues that the underlying logic behind these policies and societal norms are to compensate for the health, mental and economic losses of women in childbirth and raising children. Thus, women are abusing the system if they enjoy these privileges without having children. He argues that childless women should be held to the same legal standards and societal expectations of men except for physical capabilities. And ironically, in his impromptu survey of his class, majority of his female classmates are AGAINST becoming mothers. In essence, mothers>childless women = men. He argues that this is the only just form of gender equality. Following this presentation, he was cyberbullied and doxxed. To make things worse, a female schoolmate reported him to the school for misogynistic content and he was punished, stripped of his Communist Party fast track application (this is only given to talented people in China) . He is currently appealing against this ruling."
The war against boys in Australia is gathering momentum as all male only spaces are now considered toxic by feminist academics : r/MensRights - "Regardless of the fact that there are more girl-only schools in Australia compared to boy-only schools, and increasing enrolment in girl-only schools compared to decreasing enrolment in boy-only schools, feminist academics and the media are attacking all boys schools as reservoirs of toxic masculinity that must be rooted out and cleansed with woke exhibitionism. Girl-only schools are apparently angelic, or at least free of masculine impurity and therefore just fine. All it takes is a few disaffected teachers with unsubstantiated accusations, and the pile-on of white knights and feminist warriors ignites. The hubris of these feminist academics and media commentators is demonstrated in their eagerness to reprogram boys' masculinity, with or without the consent of the boys or their parents. They openly atest to the gaol of transitioning all boys from their natural familial masculinity to the synthetic neutered masculinity of feminist allies, as if these boys are nothing more than lego models with interchangable parts who can be deconstructed and reconstructed at will by feminist academic evangelists with no regard to their personal human rights, autonomy and integrity."
Why I Went on My Honeymoon Alone - Business Insider - "Traditionally, newlyweds take a trip together following their "I do's" — but the truth is, I've never been very traditional. Case in point: On my wedding day, I walked down the aisle by myself as a feminist declaration of my self-sufficiency. So after months and months of disagreements with my husband over where to honeymoon and when, I decided to take one by myself. My husband and I have the rest of our lives to travel together. But we struggled to settle on a destination for our honeymoon — while I yearned for a European adventure, he imagined basking in the sun at a Caribbean all-inclusive resort. I knew that if I waited around for us to compromise, I'd feel resentful down the road. Because we had no kids, it felt like the perfect time for me to leave the US and explore another part of the world. Plus, he's right in the middle of a job transition; I'm far more willing and eager to travel than he is."
James L. Nuzzo, PhD on X - "For OECD, note how paternity leave is not framed as important because it is important for the father. Instead, OECD frames it as important because it is important for the mother. Paternity leave was one topic I warned about in this essay from 2023:"
Feminists are calling children “incels” : r/MensRights - "I work in education which is unfortunately dominated by feminists. I’m hearing more and more my of colleagues referring to students as “incels” or saying we need to do more to prevent boys from becoming “incels”. Why are they making fun of children for not having sex?! I’m angry because I’m a gay man and we are so often accused of grooming kids. (That does happen sometimes and it’s disgusting and should be punished) but it’s fine when women do it (and trans people). Why?!"
"At this point, the word has lost all meaning. It's just another snarl-word to throw at men and boys."
"Incel is any man who disagrees with man-hating feminists. Wokes call people like Matt Walsh an incel and he has 6 kids."
Feminists are calling children “incels” : r/MensRights - "They probably don't know what the word 'incel' (involuntary celibate) even means. They are just going 'its a bad word I can call someone'. I'm sure if you referred to women as femcells (the original involuntary celibate group, they would be horrified. Why can they do it? Because if you're in the western world they are the undisputed most privileged group who have little to no accountability. I imagine you could ask them 'why are you sexualizing kids' but they wouldn't understand why they can't. I have no idea how to change it and suspect there will be no change."
"I saw a feminist call Trump an incel. I don't even really like Trump but... how are you going to call him an incel lol"
Meme - James L. Nuzzo: "The Workplace Gender Equality Agency (WGEA) remains steadfast in its mission to create gender equality at workplaces across Australia. That's why 77% of its employees are women."
Feminist logic: if 51% or more of a population are men, this is because of sexism and they are and will be biased against women. But if 51% or more of a population are women, this is because men are losers and they are not and will not be biased against men
