"Relative popularity of Fetlife kinks on age and gender axes (updated with better design)
"Source: Fetlife
Top 500 most popular kinks on Fetlife graphed by their deviation from the mean representation(z-score) on two
axes, age(18-105) and gender, based on data from 658,392 users."
Men really like "asian" and "ball stretching", especially older men. Older men like "depilation/shaving", though that's a bit less male-coded.
Younger men like "hentai", "furry", "abdl" and "anime", and younger men like "older women" and "pregnant".
Women really like "erotic literature", across ages, as well as "sensation play" and "honesty". Younger women like "being overpowered", "being called a good girl", "attention" and "bruises".