Links - 15th July 2020 (1)

Buck Tulson on Twitter - "Women experience heartbreak, and quickly move on. Women love opportunistically, as a means of survival. She'll pine over a lost lover for a bit, but will get right back to survival, and finding a new man to survive off of. To a woman, love is all about her and her survival.
Unlike women, men love idealistically.To a man, love is a principle that is greater than himself.Men don't use love as a survival tactic, like women do. Men latch onto a belief that his love was special, and meant to be.Thus, men take longer to get over heartbreak."
The women are wonderful effect, resulting in the idealisation and romanticisation of women, is common. This is a strange opposite

(PDF) Quantitative Sex Differences in Response to the Dissolution of a Romantic Relationship | Craig E Morris - "Emotional response was more severe than physical, with women expressing higher levels than men in each instance."
i.e. women take breakups (a bit) harder

Who Cheats More? The Demographics of Infidelity in America - "In general, men are more likely than women to cheat: 20% of men and 13% of women reported that they’ve had sex with someone other than their spouse while married, according to data from the recent General Social Survey(GSS). However, as the figure above indicates, this gender gap varies by age. Among ever-married adults ages 18 to 29, women are slightly more likely than men to be guilty of infidelity (11% vs. 10%). But this gap quickly reverses among those ages 30 to 34 and grows wider in older age groups... the infidelity rate also differs by a number of other demographic and social factors. For example, cheating is somewhat more common among black adults... A person’s political identity, family background, and religious activity are also related to whether or not they cheat. Overall, Democrats, adults who didn’t grow up in intact families, and those who rarely or never attend religious services are more likely than others to have cheated on their spouse. For example, 15% of adults who grew up with both biological parents have cheated on their spouse before, compared with 18% of those who didn’t grow up in intact families.  On the other hand, having a college degree is not linked to a higher chance of cheating... However, when it comes to who is more likely to cheat, men and women share very few traits. Separate regression models by gender suggest that for men, being Republican and growing up in an intact family are not linked to a lower chance of cheating, after controlling for other factors. But race, age, and religious service attendance are still significant factors. Likewise, men’s education level is also positively linked to their odds of cheating. By comparison, party ID, family background, and religious service attendance are still significant factors for cheating among women, while race, age, and educational attainment are not relevant factors. In fact, religious service attendance is the only factor that shows consistent significance in predicting both men and women’s odds of infidelity."

I (58M) feel like I never really knew my wife (57f) after seeing the way she handled finding out about our daughters (25f) actions : relationship_advice - "Long story short, my daughter Anna (25F) cheated on her boyfriend Adam (27M) who I have an amazing relationship with and is now pregnant. The child is not his... he comes to drop a wailing Anna off at our house with all of her belongings. Apparently, Anna's friend told him about the cheating. That is the only thing she told us through the crying Adam didn't say anything he just took her stuff out of the car and drove off.I was, and still am , deeply disgusted with my daughter. I did my best to raise her well and I can't believe she would do this. I am not able to offer Her any comfort or support because I just can't justify her actions. She is my daughter and I love her but I feel such deep disgust. What she did is despicable. I texted Adam, asking if he was okay. He said he'll be fine.As if these conflicting emotions regarding my daughter weren't enough, I have some about my wife and the way she is handling this.My wife Mary as soon as she saw Anna crying started to yell at Adam asking what happened , cursing at him after he ignored her. Her reaction just added to my shock. I brought Anna inside while she was yelling and cursing. We comforted her, gave her water and sugar when she told us what happened through tears. My wife was shushing her , telling her it was going to be okay.But then she started saying things like "you'll find someone better" , "he wasn't man enough anyway" which disturbed me. She doesn't see anything wrong with what she said. I told Her that our daughter did something terrible and nearly got away with doing that to someone and that she shouldn't be validated . I'm not saying we should insult her, but we shouldn't validate her choices either. She disagrees and says she needs our support... Anna is posting on her Facebook things like "Men are trash" and badmouthing her friend who told Adam. I dont really talk to her. Mary told me "don't you dare talk to her about Adam"... I am now seeing posting on here was a mistake. Half of the people that commented have no business offering advice to anyone. I am deeply grateful and appreciative of all the helpful advice people offered, but now it has evolved into personal attacks and judgements of myself and some really hateful comments about women"

[UPDATE]: I (58M) feel like I never really knew my wife (57f) after seeing the way she handled finding out about our daughters (25f) actions (original post on reddit got deleted) - "Some of you were right, Mary did cheat on me. She had a 8-month long affair 3 years ago. Anna knew about it. I am 100% her father though, not that it matters much now... Mary has been coming to my friend's house to try and talk to me, I've had to call the police a few times to escort her off the property. I am more close than ever with Adam and his father. I feel like a failure though... TL;DR the whole thing ended in the worst way possible. I'm currently divorcing Mary, Anna is, hopefully, going to give the child to the father and his girlfriend."
"I read the whole thing and your behavior with your wife seems appropriate, but why the hostility towards your daughter?"
"My daughter? The one who has cheated on someone and tried to trick them into raising someone elses child? The one who had the audacity to look at me while knowing her mother was cheating on me and didn't tell me anything? They are both fucking dead to me."

Gad Saad - Posts - "An individual suggests that a female FIGHTER JET pilot should not wear a burqa and he is trashed for stating so. This is the zeitgeist of the West now. Process this information. Mull it over. Ponder the implications."
Of course, the brands of Islam that support the burqa wouldn't support women flying jets

Pregnant woman, 19, killed after falling from US border wall, officials say - "A 19-year-old pregnant woman from Guatemala died this week from injuries suffered when she fell more than 19 feet trying to climb the U.S. border wall near El Paso, Texas... he spoke to Girón’s partner, who remains in Border Patrol detention.“He said that if he had known that the risks were this high, he would not have done it,” Paniagua said.Paniagua said he could recall at least seven cases this year in which Guatemalans had injured themselves trying to climb U.S. border walls"
I thought walls didn't work

The Other 98% - Posts - "Let's not forget that a lot of the people you don't think are worth 15$/hr are keeping you fed and supplied right now..."
On "essential workers" and the minimum wage
Diamonds are more expensive than water despite not being necessary for life. We need to increase water prices!
Rupert Barker - "Politics is an incredibly risky business. Most elections have tons of candidates, only one of which will win, and when they do the incumbency advantage means they'll also probably best future challengers. As a result the vast majority of candidates lose 100% of the elections they run in.
Is the reason so few women run for public office simply a matter of risk aversion?"

Meme - "Things We Hated As Kids: Naps And Spankings
Things We Love As Adults: Naps And Spankings"

Dr. Jordan B. Peterson's Mythopoeic PARTY BOAT - "A MESSAGE TO WOKE BLACKS IN THE WEST
I find it annoying when I am considered a coon or lost soul by woke blacks in the US and Canada who is ignorant of his history and the struggles of his people.
I always remind them that:
I am a Nigerian student in Canada looking to live and work here.
I'm in STEM so I am going to end up earning more and consequently paying more in taxes than a significant portion of the population.
I moved to Canada at 19 so I grew up in Nigeria where my father died early (I was 14 months and my mum was 5 months pregnant with my brother) and plunged us into poverty. There is no welfare state in Nigeria. My mum (with the help of my grandfather and father's best friend) clawed her way up to the middle class.
I came to the west because it is a great place to live and I am ACTIVELY TRYING TO KEEP IT THAT WAY!
I am quite knowledgeable in the many aspects of West African and Nigerian History (i.e. I know my history)
My country went into recession halfway through my stay here and I succeeded in working and struggling to survive when countless other students from my country across the globe were forced go back to Nigeria because they couldn't afford school anymore...
I've been through more than you know. Do not label me a bad guy and privileged race traitor just because I see through your bullshit and obey the law."

Feminism comes of age in Finland as female coalition takes the reins - Dec 14, 2019
Fight against Coronavirus in Finland hampered by lack of leadership - Mar 15, 2020

Rupert Barker - "I think one of my main problems with economics is that when it needed to come up with new words, it borrowed from English rather than Latin or Greek, which leads to a distorted view of economics and economic terms.
For some examples:
A public good is not a good provided to the public, but one that can't be privately owned
Utility means beneficial in philosophy, it means satisfaction in economics.
Efficiency means something that can't be improved in economics, it means something slightly different in engineering.
The worst offender is trade deficit, which economists think is neither good nor bad, yet the public hears the word deficit and assumes it's a bad thing."

Dōgen on Twitter - "People often say that Japanese has three alphabets, but it actually has six
-ひらがな
-カタカナ
-漢字
-Rōmaji
-☆*:.｡.o(≧▽≦)o.｡.:*☆
-空気""

Lucas Lynch - "When they become of age, young people of all stripes somehow are able to get it together to obtain a government issued ID such that they can legally consume alcohol.Yet they cannot manage to vote, despite it being no more difficult than this.Get off my lawn, seriously."

Sustainable Animal Science - "FRESHLY PEELED SHEEPS"
"Fuck this. Does everyone just not see the blood scrapes on some of their backs and faces???!!! Anyone, seriously, correct me if I’m wrong because this is making me upset af"
"Domesticated sheep need to be sheared because they don’t shed their coats on their own and it can be bad for their health if it gets too big.Also, it looks considering how close they cut that it went fairly well. I see like 2 nicks maybe, but with the photo it’s hard to tell. I mean, unfortunately, you’re going to nick a few animals because they don’t understand the order of “stand still” very well."
"Sheep can die from heat exhaustion if they aren’t sheared.Also, their skin secretes lanolin, which quickly soothes and heals any nicks they get during shearing."
"I distinctly remember how much happier the sheep I had in high school was once she’d been peeled."
"You know the really relieving feeling you get when you get a summer haircut and all of a sudden you feel lighter and much cooler? This is how sheep feel after shearing.  Freshly peeled sheeps feel nice and cool!"