I've manipulated my husband by strategically sleeping with him for more than 20 years : r/confessions - "I've been married for going on 30 years. Many, many years ago I realized that on the weekends if I got up in the morning and did whatever I needed to do (made breakfast, took care of kids, cleaned, etc) my husband would just stay in bed all day and watch TV. If I wanted to take the kids somewhere, or suggested we go shopping or hiking or hang out with friends or literally anything, my husband would say he's worked hard all week and he wants to just relax, so we'd do nothing all weekend long. BUT if I started the morning by sleeping with him, shortly after we were done he'd get up and take a shower and be ready to go conquer the world. So if I want to have a lazy day at home, I get up and do whatever I want. But if I want to go do something, I sleep with him first thing in the morning. I know I'm intentionally manipulating him, and I don't actually care because I feel like he's getting what he wants, and so am I."
War Shatters Dating Scene for Women in Ukraine - The New York Times - "While the pursuit of love might seem secondary to dealing with missile attacks, power outages and food shortages, many Ukrainians say they need romantic relationships to help them cope with the trauma of living in a nation at war. For women, the problem is particularly acute. Tens of thousands of men have died. Many more are on the front lines, some have fled the country and others are reluctant to leave their homes, fearful of being stopped in the street by draft officers. In cities like Kyiv, the capital, the presence of men has noticeably dwindled. In some villages, conscription has hollowed out the male population. “This leaves a small percentage of men who are ready for and want relationships,” said Margarita Stelmashova, a Ukrainian psychotherapist and sexologist. The war has also made forming long-term relationships more challenging. Many soldiers experience psychological stress that strains their intimate connections, sexologists say. And several women said in interviews that they worried about dating servicemen who might have war trauma, and who could one day be killed... Faced with the turmoil of the war, some women are now resorting to measures they had not contemplated before, like using dating apps or going on speed dates... Several Ukrainian women who have traveled abroad since the war broke out said it was much easier to date foreigners who did not face the threat of war. Ms. Bairachna, who often travels outside Ukraine, said she had been struck by the dual reality. “Why do our men have to suffer so much when women can just go abroad and have a martini in Milan?” she asked... At Forsage, a popular club in Kyiv, the dance floor pulsed with young people grooving to R&B and pop music. Maryna Pylcha, 22, said there was hardly a night when she was not approached by a man at the club, adding, however, that she was “very selective in this matter.”"
Men die in war. Women most affected.
When female hypergamy still is working in wartime
How women became ‘too eligible’ to date - "according to one study; women now outnumber men in higher education in nearly all OECD countries. Although women’s achievements are cause for celebration, they have also led to big potential issues in the realm of romance... Alongside this disparity, there has been a rise in assortative mating – people tending to want to only date others who have a similar education level to themselves, particularly when it comes to holding a degree. It’s little wonder, then, that educated women have expressed dissatisfaction with their romantic options. A 2023 piece of research from the US’s Institute for Family Studies (IFS) found that 45 per cent of college-educated single women said their relationship status was due to an inability to find someone who met their expectations. Of six different reasons single women gave for why they were not dating or in a relationship, the inability to find partners who measured up was cited most often. Women were also much more discerning than men when it came to dating – far more likely to say a partner’s political views, personal habits and current financial situation were important considerations... “Scholarly research on sex ratios showed that when men are in undersupply (or women in oversupply, depending upon your perspective), the dating culture becomes less monogamous and women are more likely to be treated as sex objects. And that was exactly what was happening.” Date-onomics theorised that the imbalanced sex ratios among college graduates were largely to blame for the rise of hookup culture. Because the “man deficit” gets worse for women and better for men with age, “a single 40-year-old guy who has a good job, who’s decent looking, and who’s able to carry on a normal conversation will have a lot of romantic options,” adds Birger. “And those options are, unfortunately, incentivising him to behave badly.”... while there was an issue with women not wanting to “settle”, there was concurrently an issue with men not wanting to “settle down”... One solution is for societies to become more open-minded about disassortative mating (pairing up with people unlike ourselves). For centuries, the social norm has been what’s called “hypergamy”– the term for women marrying “up”, ie, partnering with men of higher education, career, wealth and/or age. But with men more frequently falling out of higher education and labour markets, that structure no longer works, creating a dynamic where the pool of “suitable” men is far too small to cater for the number of accomplished women. Already, the numbers show that this trend is shifting. Now, for the first time in history, “hypogamy” is on the rise, and women are more likely to marry a less-educated man than men are to marry a less-educated woman than themselves... One study found that, while online dating led to more dates than meeting someone IRL, it led to fewer marriages. Meanwhile, breakup rates for both married and non-married couples were higher for those who met online rather than offline. “Match Group and Bumble do not make money off happily-ever-afters,” as Birger puts it. “They are media companies that make money from subscriptions and advertising.” His top suggestion is to get off the apps and ask someone out whom you already know and like in real life. The other big change to balance the dating scales would be for men and women to regain an education equilibrium, and this means improving academic success rates for boys. Neuroscience has suggested that girls’ brains mature at a faster rate than boys’, which helps to explain why they tend to do better in school. One long-term but radical solution, first proposed by Dr Leonard Sax, author of Boys Adrift, is to delay boys from starting school for a year; studies have shown that boys who are held back or start school later are more likely to attend college. The other big change to balance the dating scales would be for men and women to regain an education equilibrium, and this means improving academic success rates for boys. Neuroscience has suggested that girls’ brains mature at a faster rate than boys’, which helps to explain why they tend to do better in school. One long-term but radical solution, first proposed by Dr Leonard Sax, author of Boys Adrift, is to delay boys from starting school for a year; studies have shown that boys who are held back or start school later are more likely to attend college."
Fussy men need to be realistic and stop being entitled incels infected with toxic masculinity. But it's good for women to have impossibly high standards and men's fault if they can't measure up
Too bad if you suggest men and women's brains are different, that's neuro-sexism and a way to excuse male misbehavior and push responsibility onto women
Dayscar on X - "We need to break the cycle of young men thinking that they need to be accomplished versions of themselves just to date women who barely have a plan for their own lives."
Khiroptera - "fun fact if your breasts are somewhere between a 36C-36D then they weight about the same as your brain. if you're above a D-cup you've probably got more boob than brain"
WNBA star’s wig falls off mid-game, causing chaos on court - "In perhaps the rarest sight in the history of basketball, a game between the Washington Mystics and Phoenix Mercury was halted after a player lost her wig during a play. During the third quarter of Sunday’s game in Washington, Phoenix all-star Kahleah Copper was attempting to get open on an inbound play by running around a screen set by a teammate. But just as she got loose from her defender, her wig came off and hit the floor – much to the bewilderment of players, referees, fans and commentators alike.
Meme - ""Real men don't care about a womans past" Only said by a woman with a dark past"
Meme - "I think the "6ft" height standard in the U.S is doing a lot more harm than we think.
I think it's genuinely the a huge reason for a lot of resentment we see from young American men today, leading to anti-women sentiments and right wing support politically. I think this specific standard has lead men to feel systematically rejected from dating beauty standards without being able to even attempt to attain them. I don't believe there's any other standard which is as detrimental to either men or women, due to height being an immediately visible trait that has no possibility for change. With 85% of U.S men being under I think it lends men to the belief that even if women do not explicitly state that they want a taller men, men know that if they don't have those golden few inches of bone in their calves, then they are inherently being "settled" for, as the dialogue about height is very commonly seen to be around 6 feet tall."
Meme - Olkenlas @Olivierakenalas: "Equity bank married manager impregnated three of his female staff. Fear men"
Geromac Pro @GeromacPro: "3 equity bank female staff dating their married bank manager got pregnant. Stop making it look like only men are guilty"
Byrd L Robert: "3 Equity Bank female staff who competed for promotion end up pregnant"
Ku Klux Keko on X - "Women have a justification for every, and any, bad behavior a woman engages in. That shit is annoying and makes people less likely to empathize with women in situations that actually warrant empathy."
Meme - "Men before and after taking bath *haggard to handsome*
Women before and after taking bath *pretty to plain*"
Meme - "The girl I been talking to just texted that she just wants to be friends"
"Text her back "Im glad you said it first. ! didn't want to hurt your feelings" give her back those self confidence problems"
Meme - ""anime girls have the most unrealistic bodies with the biggest boobs"
Anime G Cups. Real Life G Cups"
Yxm¡ on X - "Women openly rejecting broke men has never been a problem. But now stable men express their preference for virgins, the same women suddenly take offense. Make it make sense."
Cleopatra | Seduce Her 💋 on X - "93% of women claim that their ex was narcissistic But studies suggest that only about 7% of men are actually narcissistic The math ain’t mathing."
Invis🧜♀️ on X - "men call women easy but i ain't ever met a man that was hard to get with"
When you don't understand that men are easy by default, so calling them easy is meaningless
Arslan on X - "Hear me out: Men’s only gym:
- you won’t get called a creep on TikTok
- cable machine won’t be used for kickbacks
- assisted dip machine wont be used for leg press
- no random boners
- squat rack not set on the lowest position
- more compliments and less “I have a bf”"
Meme - Joey Swoll: "And she blocked me."
roseontheinternet: "Was emotional intelligence a banned topic for men when they were in school?"
joeyswoll: "Men go through a lot with no one to turn to because the world beats it into us that we have to be strong and being strong means being silent or we're weak. In fact, a man's biggest cry for help is when he completely shuts down, no tears, no feelings, just emptiness in his eyes zoning out constantly always silent except to say, "I'm fine". Maybe if you genuinely cared to try and help men to be emotionally intelligent instead of belittling us with rage bait for likes on social media. we would be."
Thread by @wil_da_beast630 on Thread Reader App – Thread Reader App - "Men can and should simply respond to sexless relationships, extreme distrust like this, etc etc simply by saying: "This is not acceptable - we are just friends now." You should try talking through things 1st, and you'll often be begged to come back if you do this - and can choose to. But simply being willing to say "I am NOT a toxically empathic person: at some level of bullshit, I will simply take my resources/protection/etc and go" will grrrrrreeeeaaattttly improve your life as a man.
"Does this apply to WOMEN too, BRO?!!"
Well, yeah - of course. But, there are reasons I'm making the point specifically to men, today. In the post-feminist era, any woman asking whether she should leave a guy who (say) never made her cum and demanded total access to her devices would be told "YASS, QUEEN!!!" by almost literally 100% of other women. I once tested this on Reddit, and discussed the results by sex on this page.
It's worth noting that guys - who often bring at least as much to modern relationships, and have been harassed into half-believing that ever pointing this out and negotiating is "abuse" or "coercion" - have the exact same options available. :)"
Meme - "Trying to see the good in men but catherine just dropped the lore on call her daddy and the wizard Liz is pregnant and just got cheated on"
Savanna Stone @savannafstone: "Just scrolled tiktok for 5 minutes and all of it was male hating propaganda. No wonder chronically online women hate men - it’s in their faces 24/7. Wanna see the good in men? delete tiktok 😂"
Wilfred Reilly @wil_da_beast630: ""The Womanosphere" is under-discussed. Far more mainstream and damaging than the manosphere."
Modern Western society hates men too, after all
Weapon 𝕏 on X - "Women: Boobs aren’t sexual organs! Stop sexualizing boobs! Men can show their nipples in public, why can’t we?
Men: Aight then, send me a picture of your tiddies.
Women:"
Ritawilsonf on X - "my mom gets mad at me for constantly dating broke men but how do I tell her that rich guys are lazy in bed and broke guys fuck you like they're looking for a home"
Raliat🧶 on X - "Me wondering why all girls think they’re fat except the fat ones"
Héra on X - "You want to be a “tradwife” because you hate feminism and your job, I want to be a 50’s housewife so I can get a lobotomy and pop benzos before picking up cocaine cola at the grocery store and put hot dogs in jello for my husband 💅✨"
Jason Ochart on X - "I golfed with a hilarious 78 year old man, and he was dishing out life tips the whole time. The most DGAF guy I’ve ever met. He tells me after the round “don’t talk to me in the parking lot, my wife is picking me up and she thinks I went deaf 5 years ago.” What a legend."
Meme - "Women having standards
Amused wojak: Yess queen! Know your worth & never settle, you got this.
Men having standards
Raging wojak: You deserve male loneliness you're a incel & I hope you die lonely!"
Meme - "Her: You may know me but you don't know my story
Her story: *can with penises inside*"
Meme - MODERN MAN @imodernman: "An undeniable truth."
"CULTURE. Men Did Greater Things When It Was Harder To See Boobs. AMY OTTO"
Admiral Johnson @LongSchiongSil8: "African village, women are shirtless all day, no running water or electricity. Coincidence?"
Meme - Southpaw Soup @soupinthering: "skin transformation!!! all i did was let my bf nut on my face every night"
Meme - softdeadgf: "I can be this: and also like this: *made up woman, sweet cute woman*"
PotionEnjoyer: "Girl who post this wear nightmare before Christmas pajama pants in public and are 100 pounds overweight"
Meme - gabby @girllafraidd: "my italian grandmother looked at me and asked if the american dream is to be a whore"
"happy fourth from a supposed american dream"
Meme - "If you could live inside of me what part of my body would you live in?"
"Your pussy why"
"Omg"
"What"
"Your not sweet at all that's the most basic not caring answer"
"Like what u wamt me say your heart i would die of hypothermia cuz it's so cold
I guess I can live in your head I'd have a lot of room"
Psychological Treatment | Facebook - "Women don't understand what "indecent dressing" means until their maids wears it in front of their husbands. Suddenly, all the online talk about "empowerment" and "let women wear what they want" disappears. The next day, there’s a quiet, "friendly" chat. The wife pulls the housekeeper aside and says, “Hey, we’re just trying to keep things professional here, so maybe leggings are better for the gym.” The message is sent, loud and clear. A man watches this and sees the simple truth. It was never about politics or online arguments. It was about a woman protecting her territory. She doesn't want competition in her own home; she wants a sanctuary. And he knows, in that moment, that he needs a partner with that same instinct—one who naturally protects the peace of their home, instead of testing it."
Lisa Britton on X - "Now that young women are out-earning young men, is it going to become a new cultural norm to generally assume women will pay for the first few dates? No? Oh, ok. Just trying to figure out this whole gender equality, balancing for the past thing."
Feminists have a lot of interesting copes about why men should pay, so
My husband wanted to murder the man who killed our daughter, but I forgave him, he moved in with us, I see him as a son - "ON ELIZABETH Jimenez’s phone there’s a picture of her daughter Maria blowing a kiss... This is Nick Tay, 32, the man who caused Maria’s tragic death. The same man who Elizabeth has forgiven and now loves like a son... “Nick had been driving, there’d been a car crash, and Maria was gone.” Elizabeth didn’t yet know all the details. That at 1:20am the night before, with Maria in the front passenger seat, Nick had driven at 110mph in a 50mph zone. That the car had veered across two lanes before hitting the central reservation, rebounded back onto the grass verge and flipping over. She didn’t know that Nick was driving Maria’s car despite not having insurance, or that he’d emerged unharmed while Maria had been thrown from the vehicle... But as she held Fernando and wept, as they sat for hours in the hospital waiting to see Maria’s body, one thought kept whirling through Eizabeth’s mind. “‘What if it had been Fernando or Joshua at the wheel?’ I thought,” she says. “‘What if it had been me?’” “I knew that Nick had been arrested, and I couldn’t stop picturing him alone and terrified in the cells. “Instead of a desire to blame him, to vent my fury and scream for revenge, I just wanted to know that he was okay.”... Fernando and Elizabeth were united in their determination that Nick shouldn’t go to prison. “I knew that by forgiving Nick we shocked many people, from the police to some of Maria’s friends,” she says. “But we’d already lost Maria to this senseless tragedy, our darling girl was gone. “Locking Nick up in prison wouldn’t change that, it would only increase the misery. I knew it wasn’t what Maria would have wanted.” The couple then did something even more surprising. They asked Nick to move in with them. “His family were in Singapore, and with the prosecution approaching he had nowhere else to live,” Elizabeth explains. “In fact, it helped me as well as him. In those six weeks I felt the bond between us all grow, and it helped heal my heart... “Despite all my best efforts, when Nick pleaded guilty to causing death by dangerous driving and causing death by driving an uninsured vehicle, he was jailed for five years,” Elizabeth remembers. “Hearing the sentence I collapsed, sobbing uncontrollably as he was led away. I felt so powerless. “I knew this wasn’t what Maria would have wanted.” It made Elizabeth even more determined to support Nick. “Every week Fernando and I visited Nick in Maidstone prison,” she says. “It was such a horrible place, so we focused on supporting him, always reminding him that he was forgiven and loved.” Elizabeth encouraged him to join the choir run by Beating Time, an organisation that helps prisoners rebuild their lives. In September 2019, after serving almost two years Nick was released, immediately deported back to Singapore. “I wasn’t allowed to see him before he left and missed him desperately,” Elizabeth admitted.
Apparently her whole family is made up of speeders
Meme - "If a woman is independent why would she be looking for a man to still provide a soft life or anything for her? Shouldn't she be searching for what shes lacking the most? in this case genuine attraction since she has it all?"
Chloe relly @chloiiiireely: "A man's biggest fear isn't a woman who is independent. It's a woman who is independent enough to know she deserves a 'soft life' he can't provide."
Meme - "SHE GOT A BBL.. BUT STILL CAN'T KEEP A MAN OR A CLEAN HOUSE"
Black woman taking selfie: "I know my worth. These dudes just intmidate."
Black kid: "Mama, we outta tissue again!"
*Bug on mirror, dirty dishes in sink, fighting kids, bug on wall, messy floor, messy clothes*
Meme - "Marriage in 1950
>Get some milkshakes with the boys
>See cute girl
>Talk to her, maybe dance a bit
>Get married a few weeks later
>Have five kids
>Get a job and buy a house after marriage
>Never divorce
Marriage in 2024
>Have a military-style workout routine, cold showers everyday with intensive skincare, spend years trying to get a good job and studying how to make women happy before even starting to date
>Go on dating app
>If you're lucky, someone's going to choose you in the human meat market
>Have to do all sorts of stupid stuff to get her dopamine fried brain to not get bored or get "the ick"
>Maybe she'll marry you after years of building muh heccin relationship
>Maybe get her to pump out one or two children from her wrinkly, egg deprived womb but probably not
>She'll divorce you the second she feels like it"
Demi Lovato’s Case Study And Why Women Are More Prone To Mimetic Desire - "Lovato’s transformation is less an isolated story and more a reflection of society. The way she appears to jump from different identities to ideologies offers a perfect case study in what, as our writer Ella Carroll-Smith has pointed out previously, French philosopher René Girard called mimetic desire: our tendency to want what others want, and to model our desires on people we perceive as “high-status” or even “aspirational.”... Mimetic desire explains why trends often appear out of nowhere and suddenly become inescapable. While Girard didn’t study fashion or femininity directly, his theory plays out clearly in today’s culture. Last year, we had the Stanley Cup craze. Which, in hindsight, all seems so ridiculous – why did we line up outside Target, elbowing our way through the doors just to grab a large metal tumbler during the holidays? Don't get me wrong, the special edition ones are really cute! But honestly, what possessed us?... These desires don’t necessarily arise from practicality or personal preference, and they gain traction because we see other women model them. As a result, we suddenly internalize their desirability through sheer exposure. Anyone can be swayed by the internet and their friend group, but I’d argue that women are on another level of getting “easily influenced.” Why? Studies have shown that women tend to be more empathetic and attuned to social cues... the media has been designed to exploit these instincts. They have learned to monetize our desires, redirect our aspirations, and flood our feeds with idealized versions of life and beauty. We change faster now. We mold ourselves more easily, and, unfortunately, we do it without conviction, believing each new algorithmic iteration is our truest self... The longing to be like someone else, to feel in the know, in step, or accepted, can begin to overpower our own internal compass. Slowly, our sense of self is replaced by a curated composite of other people’s preferences. Fashion doesn't feel unique anymore since it's no longer about self-expression or personal tastes... Let’s go back to Demi Lovato. Her arc can be read as an especially vivid portrait of mimetic shifts in real time. There was the emo phase during her Disney years, then the body-confident pop star era that condemned the diet culture, followed by the nonbinary buzzcut. She’s back to the thin, feminine rockstar aesthetic that reminds me of Kat Von D (who, ironically, rebranded in her own way), reviving her looks from nearly a decade ago. When we look back at each stage of her life, it's clear to me that they coincided with trends. Her they/them era arrived when identity politics dominated the cultural conversation and queerness, fluidity, and political outrage were not just tolerated but algorithmically rewarded. She was apparently surrounded by figures like Alok Vaid-Menon, a controversial poet and performer whose ideas on gender were considered radical even among progressives. At the time, Lovato seemed to align herself with the dominant ideology of the cultural spaces she likely moved through, particularly among her circle of Hollywood friends. The media played a role in pushing this ideology as well. But as we’ve seen time and time again, ideology is not static, and neither is desire. Today, a different set of values appears to be in vogue. It’s as if we’re back in the '90s and early 2000s, when being fit and thin was the standard of hot. Ozempic sales are at an all-time high. Even Lizzo – the fat positivity queen herself – admitted to using it, and has lost weight in recent years. There is a subtle yet growing return to traditional and elegant aesthetics (see “quiet luxury” or “mob wife” trends), a hunger for discipline and beauty. To put it simply, the pendulum has swung again to the "normal" and "beautiful" ideal, and celebrities like Lovato have followed its rhythm... When a young girl becomes a household name before she even turns eighteen, how does she learn to distinguish her own voice from the applause or backlash of the crowd?"
