Women warn each other about dating red flags on a men-free app - "men have begun pushing back—sharing stories of being named on the app with what they claim are false or misleading accounts. Some say they were accused of cheating when they were already divorced, or flagged simply for ending a date early. Because men can't access the app, they have no easy way to know what's been said about them, let alone respond to it."
Thread by @morganisawizard on Thread Reader App – Thread Reader App - "this is straight up demonic. absolutely no one should be allowed to create public profiles about you to crowdsource your deeply personal information and dating history. people are taking issue with me casually throwing out the word “demonic.” so let me double down. the creators of this app are going to get rich off making many decent people depressed and suicidal. this isn’t about safety. this isn’t just a background check app. their own promo material clearly markets this as a way to anonymously share unverified gossip and rumors from scorned exes."
Tea app hacked: Images stolen from women's dating safety app that vets men - "Tea Dating Advice, a US-based women-only app with 1.6 million users, said there had been "unauthorised access" to 72,000 images submitted by women. Some included images of women holding photo identification for verification purposes, which Tea's own privacy policy promises are "deleted immediately" after authentication... one of the most controversial aspects of Tea is that it allows women to share information on men they have dated to "avoid red flags" but also highlight those with "green flag" qualities... However, some men - and women - have challenged these types of groups claiming that they put men at risk of invasion of privacy and defamation."
First Came Tea. Then Came the Male Rage. - The Atlantic - " by 2023, when Tea launched, American dating frustration had been mounting—perhaps especially for women. In 2019, Pew Research Center found that women were far more likely than men to say that dating had “gotten harder for most people in the last 10 years.”"
Of course, if men gossip about women, that is proof of male fragility
Weird. If there's a male loneliness epidemic which is men's fault, why are women more likely to say dating is harder?
The writer claims that women are threatened by the government is "dismantling protections against gender discrimination", but naturally this links to the dismantling of gender discrimination against men. Left wing doublethink strikes again
Meme - "These are the women calling you an incel on Tea App *Ugly women*"
Meme - "Tea: The App That Lets Women Rate Men Like Used Cars- What Could Possibly Go Wrong?"
Jared Alves: "I wonder why men don't want to pursue romantic partners anymore. Maybe we need 100 more podcasts shaming them about toxic masculinity to fix the issue"
TeaOnHer response from Movember : r/MensRights - "While I can't disagree on any particular point, it's funny that that response was only necessary post-TeaOnHer release."
"Yup... kangaroo courts (schools), #metoo, AWDTSG, police. All of these are platforms women were allowed to use to accuse men, but men (for the most part) were not allowed to when dealing with abusive women and sexual misconduct by women. They grew accustomed to privilege and society turns a blind eye to female privilege."
TeaOnHer response from Movember : r/MensRights - "Movember has been hijacked by feminists so there's no point in giving it any credibility any more. And again, they only did this when men retaliated against Tea. Not a peep when a doxxing app designed for women to use against men was first released!"
TeaOnHer response from Movember : r/MensRights - "Here’s the thing- in my city there are 60k women in AWDTSG and only 1k in the men’s group. When men post anonymously, they immediately get clowned for it, especially if they haven’t dated her yet and are just looking for “tea.” Usually the reaction is, “just go on a date with her and see if you like her” etc. At this point Tea has way, way more users than TeaOnHer and it’s probably going to remain that way. Men don’t want drama and women live for it. That’s why Love Island and The Bachelor are wildly popular shows for women but women’s sports struggle. They don’t want to help and support each other, they just want drama. I’ve been posted on AWDTSG at least once that I know of and I’m assuming I’m in Tea. I’m late 30s, had several multi-year relationships, and a lot of dates and flings in between. Guaranteed there are at least 1 or 2 women that hate me and are dragging me regardless of whether or not what they’re saying is true, they have severe mental health issues, and literally can’t get along with anyone. I still can’t bring myself to create a TeaOnHer account — I just don’t care. Idk maybe that will change, but my current outlook on the whole thing is that all of these groups and apps should just go away because people are in there destroying each other. If you’re that concerned about someone’s past, run a background check."
TeaOnHer response from Movember : r/MensRights - ""Both sides" after one side has been doing the thing for years in high volumes and the other side attempts a weak retaliation... But what else would you expect from an organisation that has 70% female leadership, and which channels increasing amounts of revenue away from men's health and towards the promotion of "positive masculinity"?"
TeaOnHer response from Movember : r/MensRights - "These same feminists will go on and on about the tragedy of female beauty standards, and how that’s so hard for women to deal with, and claim words are violence. But rallying thousands of people to shame and mock you specifically, and make fun of your particular body? And possibly put you in the path of violence from some anonymous psycho? Nahh… you’ve just internalized a narrative of female persecution."
CMV: Not Policing Abuse on "Tea" and "Arewedatingthesameguy" ruined the purpose of the group : r/changemyview - "Listen, I'm a man who completely understands why these apps are needed. They SHOULD exist because they can be a valuable space for women to warn each other about dangerous men or cheaters. The problem is that women use them, very frequently in my experience, for slander or malicious gossip instead of safety. If they're abused, they become a net negative rather than a net good. I've been on the facebook group multiple times, neither were for anything I did wrong other than:
1) Break up with someone who didn't know why, so she posted me to see if anyone else had been dating me (no one had, I don't cheat), but it blew up and eventually made its way to my work.
and;
2) Date a lot of women after said break up, and get posted a million times (I was told I was a minor celebrity on there by one woman), despite never giving anyone the impression I was doing anything other than that. My ex who posted me the first time, and eventually turned to stalking me, jumped on the post to make a bunch of claims that were, if not outright lies, at the very least exaggerations. Things like saying I drink too much, and my kids are shitty. Guess what. That also made its way back to my work.
She also took screen shots of all the women shitting on me and sent it to me. Well, that breaks the rules of the group, so I sent a copy pasted message to the admins letting them know. A week later, I got no reply and it was still up. A few of the women I was seeing were angrier than I was about it, especially since it got back to my work. So one reported my post to the admins, citing the same violation of rules I did. Guess what? SHE GOT BANNED. The group is a great idea. But the implementation and moderation make undermine the original purpose of these apps and turn a tool meant for safety into a weapon that damages lives and reputations. This has the potential to impact people's lives severely, and it can be fixed by women showing they take the potential for misuse seriously. I can't but feel like the individuals on both sides showing such a mind blowing lack of empathy for the other side deserve each other.
However, given that I've been on the receiving end of the negatives of this group, I'm aware that I might be biased against it. So I would love someone to explain to me why the moderators and users posting slander, gossip, or even just non safety related things like "he had a bad vibe" aren't ruining what should be a good thing for everyone."
Meme - Woman to Wojak: "OK Incel"
*Wojak with baby in stroller and tradwife*
Meme - Orc holding sign: "We're not dating racist, orcphobic Gondorean men!"
In study, female OB/GYNs less likely than males to receive top patient satisfaction scores - "Gender bias can rear its head in unexpected ways. In a new study from Stanford researchers, female OB/GYNs were 47 percent less likely to receive top patient satisfaction scores than their male counterparts. "I was surprised at just out big the gender bias is -- much larger than I anticipated," said lead author Carolyn Haunschild, MD. Haunschild presented these findings in a poster at the American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists annual meeting in San Diego last week. For their study, Haunschild and her colleagues looked at 909 Press-Ganey patient satisfaction surveys associated with visits to an outpatient gynecology clinic between March 2013 and June 2014. After considering other factors -- like staff friendliness and clinic cleanliness and accessibility -- that influence patients' experiences, the researchers found that patients were more likely to say they'd recommend their OB/GYN if the doctor was male. What makes these results all the more surprising is that this goes against patients' stated preferences, suggesting that the gender bias is unconscious."
This must be due to sexism because personal experience is the most important thing in the world and everything that finds that men are better is sexist. This cannot be because they might be better, and patients' stated preferences cannot be gender bias themselves
How Many People Have Ever Received an Unsolicited Dick Pic, and How They Felt About It - "Just over half of the sample (53.5%) reported having ever received a dick pic of any type before—and among this group, 90% reported having received at least one unsolicited dick pic... Among gay and bisexual men, the reactions tended to be more positive than negative. Specifically, 34% reported feeling aroused, 41% felt curious, 44% felt entertained, and 28% felt flattered. By contrast, 14% felt disrespected, 13% felt grossed out, 4% felt sad, and 3% felt violated. Some also reported neutral/ambivalent reactions, with 8% feeling bored and 14% feeling confused. So it wasn’t the case that all gay and bisexual men responded the same way—some were happy to see the photos while others were offended. But there were more positive than negative reactions on average. In looking at women’s responses, negative reactions were more common than positive reactions. Specifically, 46% felt disrespected, 49% felt grossed out, 6% felt sad, and 28% felt violated. By contrast, 8% felt aroused, 11% felt curious, 16% felt entertained, and 7% felt flattered. In addition, 8% said they were bored and 19% said they felt confused... lesbians were twice as likely as heterosexual women to feel flattered... One limitation of this study is that heterosexual-identified men weren’t included, so it’s unclear how many of them have also received such photos and what their responses tend to be like. That said, these findings tell us a few important things. First, the way people respond to unsolicited dick pics appears to depend, in part, on both their gender and sexual orientation, and women appear more likely to perceive these photos as a form of sexual harassment compared to sexual minority men. Second, the fact that women are reporting more negative than positive reactions is important to contrast with men’s reasons for sending these photos in the first place—the most common motives reported by men are that they’re hoping for photos in return and/or hoping to start a sexual or romantic relationship. Women’s responses in this study would suggest that guys who send these photos are unlikely to get what they’re hoping for."
Older women should stop whingeing about being invisible - "My closest male friend claims many women don’t acknowledge they benefited from “pretty privilege” in their youth. This is his theory any reasonably attractive young woman has a disproportionate share of the world’s eyes on them and is deemed “more agreeable to be around than comparable men”. He feels that if women feel lower-vis in their 50s, it’s just what men have experienced all along. I couldn’t take him to task, because moments before he laid out his theory, I’d been reminiscing gleefully about my early years in London, when I rarely bought my own drink or supper and pocketed free membership to four private members clubs. At the same stage of life, my friend was a penniless busker, who couldn’t get anyone to buy him a pint. At the risk of being disowned by my sex, I wish women would grow a pair and embrace the great good fortune of surviving. No one likes a whinger and as the great exemplar of pride-in-age Helen Mirren says: “You either die young or get old.” Hurrah to that."
When you're accustomed to privilege, equality feels like oppression
Meme - poppy @imnotpopbase: "Boys I shoot my shot at vs Boys who shoot their shot at me"
Readers added context: "Bryan has never expressed interest in this broad."
Bryan @btcbbryan: "And when tf did I shoot my shot with you?"
Sexual orientation versus behavior—different for men and women? - "lesbians are more likely than gay men to have ever had sex with an other-sex sexual partner, whether in the last year (5% for men and 18% for women) or ever (39% for men and 59% for women). The larger share of lesbians than gay man who had other-sex partners in the past year comes both from lesbian being more likely than gay men to have partners of both sexes (13% of lesbians), as well as being more likely to have had sex with only other-sex partners (5% of lesbians)."
Meme - Daughter of Wolves @Alicia***: "Men, this is literally all we want... A little body/facial hair. A little muscle. A little fat. It's that simple <3" *Henry Cavill*
BowTiedYukon: ""Women: "I don't ask for much"
What they ask for: Superman"
Just a random thought: instead of saying 'men are bad at sex,' why not say that women take more time and effort to reach satisfaction? : r/MensRights - "A lot of woman a really really bad at sex. They just sit there and wait to be "amazed". This is a sick way of fucking where the man is the object and the woman is the subject that will judge at the end. It was good or bad. And what about the man's feeling of being held ? Feeling safe ? Feeling connected ?"
"Yeah I always felt like women complaining that they can't finish, is often because they have sex passively. They are just waiting for you to give them an orgasm. I think women would be a lot more satisfied in bed if they were interacting more, and trying more to satisfy their body by themselves. Found that if they go on top and have to move by themselves, it yields better success in them having an orgasm."
Greek Woman Files For Divorce After ChatGPT "Reads" Husband’s Affair In Coffee Cup - "In a bizarre mix of old traditions and cutting-edge tech, a Greek woman has reportedly filed for divorce after asking ChatGPT to “read” her husband’s Greek coffee cup — and receiving an answer she took very seriously. The woman, married for 12 years and mother of two, turned to the AI chatbot developed by OpenAI, asking it to interpret the coffee grounds in a photo of her husband’s cup — a modern twist on the age-old art of tasseography. The result? ChatGPT allegedly told her that her husband was having an affair with a younger woman who was determined to tear their family apart. Taking the AI’s mystical reading at face value, she immediately initiated divorce proceedings... The husband also noted that this wasn’t the first time his wife had fallen under the spell of supernatural guidance. “A few years ago, she visited an astrologer and it took a whole year for her to accept that none of it was real,” he said... Meanwhile, seasoned coffee readers have weighed in, noting that real tasseography involves much more than just the grounds — skilled practitioners also analyze the foam and the coffee saucer."
Drowning in the depths. What to do? : r/askSingapore - " I have seen a few couples getting divorced because of these problems after having a kid, all just because the mums are very headstrong on a certain way to bring their kids up. And it’s to the point where the husband cant even understand the intricacies of it. Yes, thats the reasons they divorced. Their kid lost their father due to their mums being too anal about the small little things."
Drowning in the depths. What to do? : r/askSingapore - "this mental load that you speak about, is it because you want things done your way in your time? sometimes the best way to handle family life is to just trust that your husband will get things done, even if it’s not on your terms or on your timeline. i often hear many mothers complain about mental load but in reality they just cannot accept that things can be done a different way from what they deem is correct."
Hypogamy, the increasingly common romantic choice among brilliant women - "Historically, hypergamy—when a woman marries a man of higher social or educational status—was the norm. However, this trend is gradually reversing. In the United States, according to sociologist Christine Schwartz of the University of Wisconsin, the proportion of couples where the woman is more highly educated than her partner increased from 39% in 1980 to 62% in 2020. In France, a study by the National Institute of Demographic Studies (INED) indicates that since the cohorts born in the late 1950s, women are more often more qualified than their spouses, thus marking a reversal of female hypergamy... these women often earn as much or more than their husbands, but this is not the norm.""
It's interesting that they don't mention that higher education is not necessarily a route to higher income, and that they limit hypgergamy to level of education
Meme - "Over 2 million women showed their naked bodies on OnlyFans for less than $50/month"
Meme - "What archaeologists will find in 500 years *skeleton with lip filler, fake breasts, manicured pink nails holding phone. "Worked on: OnlyFans 2020-2060""
OnlyFans star Lil Tay, 18, brutally slams women who work traditional nine to five jobs: 'You are a failure' - "OnlyFans star Lil Tay, born Claire Hope, did not hold back as she slammed women over the age of 25 who work a traditional nine to five job in a bizarre Instagram video posted on Saturday. The rapper and OnlyFans star sparked fierce backlash as she railed against those who have normal professions - after bragging about her earnings from the adult content site. 'If you’re over the age of 25 and you’re still working a nine to five, you are a failure,' Lil Tay said bluntly to her 5.7 million followers... 'I can literally buy their whole life if I wanted to, I'm good,' she added. In the video, she also told followers to 'f**k an education' and claimed that going to Harvard University would have never helped her make eight figures... Lil Tay first went viral in 2017 at age nine after posting videos full of foul language and violent behavior. It later came out that her brother Jason was feeding her lines off-camera, sparking concerns that she was being exploited by her family for money. Around the same time, her mom, Angela Tian, lost her job as a real estate agent for allegedly using her employer's properties and cars in her daughter's videos... in 2018, Lil Tay became the center of a nasty custody battle between her estranged parents that played out heavily in the media. In August 2023, a post from Tay's verified Instagram account claimed that both she and her brother had died. A day later, TMZ reported that both siblings were alive."
Meme - LIL TAY: "If you're a girl in 2025 without an OF, you've basically given up on life."
Tiffany Wisconsin Blames Divorce on Video With 20 Men - "OnlyFans star Tiffany Wisconsin is blaming her divorce on a not-so-common marriage hangup: a video of the 20 men she claims to have slept with. “The reason for the divorce was my husband finding the video I did with 20 guys on our wedding night”... The accompanying video, which she captioned, “Hardest thing I’ve ever been through,” jumped from a shot of Wisconsin in her wedding dress to her crying in her car and finally to a group of men ascending a staircase, shown only from the waist down. It’s unclear whether Wisconsin, 35, was being serious. Her Instagram page also includes a video with someone she calls her “70-year-old boyfriend” and other men with whom she’s created content."
Meme - Diane Yap @RealDianeYap: "I would rather be a temporary fleshlight for or 10 than a permanent sex slave and housekeeper for a 5. I'm sure most women feel the same way."
Strange Mutant @BobTheMutant: "Let's flip it around: Is it cheaper for a wealthy man to buy visits from an 8+ escort a few times per week, than to risk ruinous divorce settlements?"
Threads - "I have the luxury of telling my husband , babe I don’t wanna cook today, I’m tired and he says okay that’s fine, I ll whip up something for myself. My husband doesn’t have the luxury of saying I don’t wanna work today, he has to work whether he likes it or not. I work too but I have the luxury of saying I don’t wanna work. He doesn’t because he feels responsible for our wellbeing no matter what. I’m just saying give some grace to your husbands. Men have silent battles that no one hears."
