If a Lady says No...

One very important skill to master in the broad category of "emotionally manipulating women" is persistence.

Persisting regardless of the other party's feelings or desire (ie Ignoring Kant's second formulation of the Categorical Imperative - "Act in such a way that you treat humanity, whether in your own person or in the person of any other, always at the same time as an end and never simply as a means") can lead and has lead to results, not least because resistance or disinterest is sometimes feigned as a test, to prevent accusations of being 'easy' or otherwise.


Anecdote One:

My friend was helping this girl configure something on her laptop, so she was at his house. He tried his moves on her, but he got no response so he stopped.

Later, he was discussing this with her, and she said "your house, your game", so he set up a rematch, during which he advanced all the way and got what he (both of them) wanted.


Anecdote Two:

One female friend had hooked up with this guy, and I asked her how this had happened (she was supposed to be with this other guy, but that's another story, maybe not for another day).

She said he had hit on her, but she wasn't interested. However, he kept on hitting on her, and as she related this she sounded very pissed off with him.

However, eventually he got her, at least for a while (this persistence was not the reason she eventually ditched him).


As my Evolutionary Psychology instructor commented: "Men are more likely to read too much into the smile. It is adaptive to risk a rebuff... If 9 out of 10 women slap your face and say 'bugger off', it doesn't matter if the 10th woman smiles and, you know?... Bad manners are good for genetics."

"If a lady says 'no', she means 'maybe'.
If a lady says 'maybe', she means 'yes'.
If a lady says 'yes', then she's no lady."