Hazel Appleyard on X - "One of many reasons not to support surrogacy. This couple thinks that they can basically control everything their surrogate does, from what she eats, to trying to forbid her to have pain relief during labour, and YELLING AT HER - until she cries - for disagreeing. These people no longer see her as a human. They merely see her as their incubator."
Meme - "AITAH for telling my BIL and his wife that I don’t want to follow their birth plan?
So I (34f) am a surrogate for my BIL Simon (39m) and his wife Michelle (38f). Simon and Michelle have struggled with infertility for years. They’ve tried IVF and even surrogacy before, but the person changed her mind at the last second. They have outwardly shown their jealousy of my husband James (34m) and me for having children, especially as only one of them was planned, and our oldest was born when we were sixteen. They came to me last year and begged me to be their surrogate. I had doubts, as did my husband, but I felt bad for them and decided to go through with it. James supported my decision and has acted like he did with my previous pregnancies, sweet and caring. Simon and Michelle, on the other hand, are very controlling. They made up meal plans for me, and I’m taking all these supplements as well as attending multiple classes. When I told them I knew what to do during pregnancy, they didn’t listen and said to me that just because I was pregnant four times doesn’t mean I’m an expert. I gave up trying to dissuade them as I knew nothing would work. We started going over the birth plan earlier this week, and it caused a huge argument. They wanted me to do an unmedicated water birth, and I flat out refused. For my second pregnancy, I didn’t have enough time for any pain relief, and the pain was horrific. I have quite a high pain tolerance, but this experience was awful, and I never wanted to do that again. (Kudos to anyone who has unmedicated births) As for the water birth, I don’t like the idea of being submerged in water with blood, other fluids and possibly poop. They weren’t happy about this. They said this was their baby and they should decide how they were born. I retorted and said, this is my body, and I should decide how I want to push out a human that I’m so generously carrying for them. A lot of shouting happened, and I started to get overwhelmed very quickly. I started crying, and Michelle rolled her eyes and told me to grow up. James told her to shut up, which started Simon off, and it was just a mess. James and I left the house, and I was crying the whole way home and regretting ever agreeing to be their surrogate. It took James and me a few days to calm down, and during those days, we didn’t have any contact with Simon or Michelle. Simon and Michelle called James’ parents and complained to them about what happened, so they called us, and we explained our side of the story. They were shocked at what happened and said they were fully on our side and that they’d talk with Simon and Michelle. I’m due in two weeks, and I’m so nervous. A part of me doesn’t want them there, but I know they have to be, seeing as it’s their child. James disagrees. He said that he'll have them kicked out if they do anything to upset or stress me out. Even my oldest agrees with him, and he won’t even be in the room. I sort of do feel like an asshole but I don’t know. It’s a hard time right now"
Divorce of same-sex couples - Wikipedia - "Netherlands. Between 2004 and 2009, the average annual divorce rate for all homosexual marriages was almost 2% (the total rate of divorce over those five years was 11%) Also between 2004 and 2009, lesbian divorce rates were nearly double of those of gay men... A 2022 study of Norway, using data up to 2018, found that divorce rates 20 years post-marriage were 5% lower for male-male marriages compared to male-female marriages and were 29% higher for female-female marriages vs female-male marriages. Another study on short-term same-sex registered partnerships in Norway and Sweden found that divorce rates were higher for same-sex couples than opposite-sex marriages, and that unions of lesbians are considerably less stable than unions of gay men... United Kingdom... As of 2013, lesbian couples were twice as likely to initiate actions to end legally recognized partnerships as compared to gay men. In 2016, married female couples were approximately 2.5 times more likely to divorce than male couples."
The power of patriarchy!
Meme - "Feminist News:
@laetitiakafunda: "She took her free domestic labor with her"
@Lovandfear: "She took the flowers and colors with her." *old man with old woman in blooming garden* *old man alone in dead garden*
KellynGlenn Hall: "I'm as feminist as they come, but this seems unnecessarily bitter and spiteful-just the adjectives people use to denigrate feminists. Maybe don't perpetuate that stereotype.""
Though the real story from Ken Griffiths is that it was winter and the woman was in the house
soup girl on X - "123k likes on a tweet dunking on an old man for losing his wife and talking about the grief he is experiencing.....being online has genuinely made people so cruel and soulless"
This Airline Will Soon Allow Women to Request Not to Sit Next to Men - "IndiGo, India’s largest low-cost airline, has just announced a brand-new policy which will allow women to view the gender of the seats already booked on a flight, and opt to sit next to another woman if they prefer."
Meme - "I sent 100 applications as a man and a woman. It's MUCH better being a woman
So I did an experiment, I work in CS and decided to test what the gender bias is. So I took my CV and changed the name to a female name. I'd send it out with my real name, then a few days later (or few days before) with a female name. Out of 100, my applications with a male name got 7 responses for interview. Out of 100, my applications with a female name got 45 responses to interview. The female resume was 650% more likely to get a callback. And the resumes were identical. So then I thought "what about someone looking for working class jobs?" So I decided to focus on restaurants- servers, hosting, etc. Made a fake resume, and responded to craigslist ads with both male and female names. Sometimes the male went first, sometimes the female went first. Out of 100, my applications with a male name got 10 responses to interview. Out of 100, my applications with a female name got 87 responses to interview. The female resume got 870% more responses."
Meme - "Sports are misogynistic. They pay male players way more than female"
"It's unfair how female models in fashion industry get paid more than males, right?"
"But female models bring more money because more people watch them"
*Knowing look*
'I was repulsed': Abuse survivor demands Liberal MP apologize after testimony 'hijacked' in chaotic House committee - "An advocate for ending violence against women is calling on a Liberal MP to apologize after shutting down her testimony during a parliamentary committee Wednesday by turning the committee’s discussion into a partisan debate over abortion. Instead of having the chance to share her story and the experiences other survivors who say the Canadian justice system has failed them, Cait Alexander says she left feeling disrespected and “abused.” She and another witness walked out of the parliamentary committee visibly shaken Wednesday and MPs said they were “disgusted” by the behaviour that drove the witnesses to tears. At one point, the women even shouted at Liberal MP Anita Vandenbeld for overriding their testimony... Not long after Conservatives on the committee began questioning the witnesses, Vandenbeld, the Liberal MP for Ottawa West—Nepean, interjected to raise concerns, complaining that not only was the meeting called hastily, but that Liberals were not provided the opportunity to gives the names of witnesses they would like to call, unlike the Tory committee members. Vandenbeld, who defended the government’s criminal justice record, accused the Conservatives of trying to use “victims’ and survivors’ trauma to try to score political points,” saying it was “cruel.” She then moved a motion to have the committee instead discuss another topic — abortion — even as the witnesses in the room yelled objections over her attempt to change the subject. Liberal and NDP members, who together hold a majority at committee, voted to pass the motion. Watching the display, Alexander says Vandenbeld spoke out of her turn by suggesting Alexander had been brought in to bolster the Conservatives’ message. Alexander said she is non-political and has worked with the Ontario NDP to advance reforms and supports the Bloc Québécois in its efforts to not allow judges to toss out violent criminal cases because of delays. “It was triggering,” she said in an interview. “I demand a public apology,” adding she believes Vandenbeld “utilized her trauma” for the MP’s own political gain, and “hijacked” survivors’ testimony. “I was repulsed.”... The Liberals frequently use the abortion issue to try and drive a political wedge against the Tories, some of whom oppose unregulated abortion, although Poilievre has vowed not to reopen the issue should Conservatives form the next government... Conservative MP Anna Roberts apologized to the pair, saying she was “disgusted” by the Liberal and NDP voting to switch topics, particularly given how the witnesses needed to travel to attend the meeting, including from California. At one point, NDP Winnipeg MP Leah Gazan said she was struggling to hold back tears because she was not provided a chance to call forward any Indigenous witnesses, such as the families of those murdered by serial killer Jeremy Skibicki in 2022. “I’m disgusted … when I’m representing ground zero of murdered and missing Indigenous women and girls,” she said, adding that no one was called to speak from the LGBTQ community. Shortly after, Alexander, who at one point held up the photos of her injuries, left the room as did Walker. Before she did, Walker stood and shouted at the committee how as an advocate for women she had never seen such behaviour. “They acted like children,” said Alexander."
Two witnesses storm out of House committee in tears, decrying Liberal politicization : r/canada - "NDP Leah Gazan literally said not getting to talk first was "deeply offensive" and "an act of violence against her" in front of a woman who came to testify about how she fled Canada because her ex beat her up so bad that he nearly killed her"
"People will claim then NDP are for labour rights and not identy politics but then let people like her be an MP in their party because she's diverse enough. No wonder blue collar voters have completely moved on from the NDP."
"She’s deeply programmed to use these trigger words to get her way. All a display like this does is to delegitimize actual victims of violence. What a piece of trash this reprehensible woman is."
"It's crazy to see the "progressive stack" idea backfire so fantastically in a real world setting."
Dutch women, but not men, in same-sex relationships are more likely to commit crime, study finds - "A study in the Netherlands found that women in same-sex relationships have 56% higher odds of being suspected of committing crimes compared to their peers in opposite-sex relationships. In contrast, men in same-sex relationships had 32% lower odds of being suspected of committing crimes compared to men in opposite-sex relationships. The paper was published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior... Starting from a theory that sexual minority individuals are exposed to more stress as they grow up, the study authors hypothesized that these individuals would be more likely to have committed criminal offenses compared to their heterosexual peers. Also, based on theories explaining the social and behavioral specificities of sexual minorities as effects of sexual hormones (mainly testosterone), the study authors hypothesized that women in same-sex relationships would be more likely to commit crimes, but that this likelihood would be lower for men in same-sex relationships."
Damn patriarchy!
Meme - "Great-great-grandfather: Shes the boss
Great-grandfather:Happy wife happy life
*Grandfather holding shield and making thumbs up sign*
Father: Someday you'll lead your woman as God leads you
IT'S UP TO YOU TO BREAK GENERATIONAL FEMINISM"
Anya Taylor-Joy on Why She Fights for 'Female Rage' on Screen
Male rage bad, female rage good. As usual, men are evil
Meme - *Pete Buttigieg and husband Chasten Buttigieg holding 2 babies*
*Buttigiegs showing pictures of babies in womb*
*Buttigiegs in bed with 2 babies*
*Handmaid's Tale pregnant Handmaids*
Meme - Peasant with sticks on back: "WE SHOULD HELP MEN SOMEWHAT."
FEMINISTS popping out of well: "WHY DO YOU HATE WOMEN?"
Meme - Fantasy: *Man and woman going to race, where man has one hurdle but woman has lots of obstacles and a ball and chain*
Reality: *Man and woman going to race, where man has two hurdles but woman has none and is on a man's back*
Misogyny to be treated as extremism by UK government
When a doctor refuses to perform a tubal ligation on a young, single woman because her and a "future husband" might want kids... what that doctor is really telling her is that a man she has never even met yet is controlling her body. : r/TwoXChromosomes
Left wingers keep claiming that medical decisions (i.e. abortion and trans surgery) should only be between the patient and the doctor. Turns out they don't even want the doctor to be involved, but instead agree to everything the patient demands
Meme - kwilliam @kwilliam111: "Why aren’t women’s rights activists protesting when Rotherham and other girls are forced into marriage? Why are we “far right” for posting about it?"
"The British child brides: Muslim mosque leaders agree to marry girl of 12... so long as parents don't tell anyone"
"Roma gipsy girls as young as 12 are being 'forced to live in arranged marriages in scandal-hit Rotherham'"
Liza Rosen on X - "This is what justice looks like under Islamic Sharia Law; A ‘celebrity’ Saudi Muslim preacher got free after he raped and tortured his 5-year-old daughter to death. When she turned 5, started doubting her virginity and suspected that she had committed adultery (or more precisely having ‘Haram’ intimate relationship without getting married). This is why he raped her and then tortured her till her last breath in so called “honor killing”. She suffered multiple injuries including a crushed skull, broken back, broken ribs, a broken left arm and extensive bruising and burns. Under Islamic sharia law, a father is allowed to kill his children and a husband is allowed to kill his wives to preserve "family honor". This is why under Saudi law judges cannot sentence fathers to death for murdering their daughters. Every year thousands of girls in the Arab Muslim world are murdered by their Muslim fathers, most cases are reported as suicide or an accident to prevent persecution of the murderers who did not violate any Islamic law."
Saudi preacher who 'raped and tortured' his five -year-old daughter to death is released after paying 'blood money' - "Fayhan al-Ghamdi had been accused of killing his daughter Lama, who suffered multiple injuries including a crushed skull, broken back, broken ribs, a broken left arm and extensive bruising and burns. Social workers say she had also been repeatedly raped and burnt. Fayhan al-Ghamdi admitted using a cane and cables to inflict the injuries after doubting his five-year-old daughter’s virginity and taking her to a doctor, according to the campaign group Women to Drive... Albawaba News reported the judge as saying: "Blood money and the time the defendant had served in prison since Lama's death suffices as punishment."... The money is considered compensation under Islamic law, although it is only half the amount that would have been paid had Lama been a boy. Despite Saudi Arabia’s famously strict legal system, Women to Drive say fathers cannot be executed for murdering their children in the country. Equally, husbands cannot be executed for murdering their wives."
Saudi royal family intervenes over preacher released despite raping and killing daughter
Et des jeunes filles voilées, est-ce aussi de la « diversité » ?
Et des jeunes filles voilées, est-ce aussi de la «diversité»? : r/QuebecLibre - "Le pire la, c'est que sa nous regarde tellement pas le linge que les gens portent mais c'est pas juste un vêtement, c'est un geste politique et de soumission. Ce que les gens qui ont la tête dans le cul ne réalisent pas, c'est que le hijab et le niqab, c'est vraiment la partie moyenâgeuse de la religion musulman. C'est les vestiges d'une interprétation religieuse qui sert à contrôler les femmes. C'est pour ça d'ailleurs que la plupart des femmes Berbères n'en portent pratiquement jamais ( Algérie etc. ) sauf celles qui sont de descendance des conquêtes arabes. C'est politique et c'est moyenâgeux. Y'a rien dans ce vêtement qui est "bon" pour celle qui le porte. De toute mes collègues, parce que j'ai énormément de collègue féminin et masculin qui sont musulmans, celles qui ne se cache pas de leurs haines du Québec "raciste" sont toute celles qui portent le hijab. Pour toutes les autres, mis à part l'accent français, vous pourriez même pas vous douter d'où elles viennent... C'est une bien triste "diversité"."
"Ah ben, ça lui a valu un bannissements de Reddit."
"Critiquer l'Islam, c'est mal selon reddit Que l'Islam critique les athées et recommande de les tuer, ben c'est leur tradition ! Je trouve ça tellement weird. Si je critiquais les nazis alors qu'ils existaient, est-ce que je me ferais ban ? Pourtant l'Islam est pretty comme le nazisme, contrôle du sex, des ethnies, des personnes ''déviantes''. Ça fucking suck"
Meme - "YOU CAN'T SPELL HERO WITHOUT HER"
XAVIER: "You can't spell Her without "He""
Meme - Women's Rights News: "Credit: victoroaannmeyers / mkarolian
victoriaannmeyers: "Unless you are a mom, in which case your life gets 1500% easier without the other parent"
mkarolian: "Anyone considering divorce should really be forced to do like two weeks of solo parenting before making a decisions. It really makes you ..."
Marc Abner: "If the majority of men were commenting they're so much better after leaving their significant other, mentioning how worthless and lazy they were. Not trusting their these women to be anywhere around their children. I suspect that the women would say it's the men that are idiots for consistently choosing worthless girlfriends. So I find it interesting that 99% of the posts here from women are all stating how happy they are for breaking up with their boyfriends/husbands"
Weird. We keep being told that feminism is for men too
Strange. We keep being told that single moms have it very bad and they need more help. Looks like we can withdraw all of that, since they have it better than married moms
Meme - "Yes single mothers do very well statistically, I'm sure their children don't have high incarceration rates either"
Or just be sexist, then bigoted generalizations about massive swaths of the population validate any opinions you have. Looks like it's working great for you so far."
"Stats say it is far harder to raise a child on your own male or female. Quit spreading false propaganda please and thank you."
Single parenting: My generation has fallen for the belief that parenting should be shouldered alone - "As I haul multiple shopping bags from my boot, while my toddler skitters between parked cars, my neighbour nods hello from his back porch, while ashing his cigarette. Each week – despite knowing that I am a solo mother by choice with a donor-conceived son and no partner at home – my neighbour watches me teeter inside, a leaning tower of motherhood with hefty bags and a yelling child attached to my shins. I smile brightly and say hello, but my mind is a static of expletives: why doesn’t he offer to f------ help?! It’s not entirely my neighbour’s fault. I could ask him to help, but I don’t. What’s stopping me? I consciously chose this solo path, of course, and I embraced all the work and self-reliance it would entail"
Meme - Tiffany ⚢ Woman4Women🦖 @Woman4W: "In year 6, my daughter was celebrating getting into the all-girls secondary school of her choice. She enthused, "Finally, there will be no boys around!" and her male teacher replied, "There will still be male teachers." as if this is a gotcha to a girl who'd been bullied by boys.
She retorted, "Any male teacher who wants to teach at a girls' school is probably a paedo." And thus I got an angry phone call from him, which is how I learned about this exchange. To this day I don't know what he expected of me, but I snorted."
Colin @Colin_O_Scopie: "So you are happy that she has just defamed an innocent person who's career and reputation could be ended due to a false accusation? And you are also happy she has just been taught that she can lay extremely serious false accusations without any repercussions? /1"
Naturally, she got cheered and the teacher got condemned. "elation at being free of boys" is empowerment and feminism but elation at being free of girls would be misogyny, but misandry does not exist
Dr Charlotte Proudman on X - "Not all men, but Gisèle Pélicot’s husband who reportedly drugged and raped her for over 10 years. Not all men, but 90+ male strangers, most living within 1km of her home. Not all men, but men with STDs and HIV who didn’t use condoms. Not all men, but her 'polite' neighbour."
Wilfred Reilly on X - "Once again: this crazy French abuse case involved a man who used an online gg contact board, specifically targeted at perverts and criminals, to recruit people to rape/molest his wife. Over a period of 11 years, he found ~90 takers. The distance figure given is just fake...but he lived in central Avignon, not on an isolated farm. There just is no point here about men, French people, etc. I'd be glad to poll on this, but less than 1% of men or women would anonymously say yes to doing this "in the wild." The exact equivalent of this would be me posting a Backpage ad titled "Looking for a Special Friend," and coming to the conclusion that all women are wholesale or human traffickers. The contemporary desire TO panic is not only not based in fact, but wildly unhealthy."
Good luck if you use this logic about a "minority"
DND paid $32K for 'intersectional feminist' report on space exploration - "Newly-unearthed documents reveal the Department of National Defence (DND) paid $32,250 for a report examining space exploration through an intersectional and feminist lens, concluding that existing approaches to space are rife with “patterns of entrenched gender, racial and geopolitical dominance,” exclusions fortified by “discussions in technospeak,” and encourages practices considered “racist,” “exploitative” and “environmentally destructive.” The report, entitled Hidden Harms: Human (In)security in Outer Space , was produced by Project Ploughshares — a Canadian “peace research institute” associated with the Canadian Council of Churches... Self-professed science fiction and space nerd Kris Sims, Alberta Director of the Canadian Taxpayers Federation — which uncovered the report via an access-to-information request — questioned the report’s value. "This is why people stargaze and write science fiction, to get away from this crap,” she said. “To have it all just boiled down to ‘-isms’ and calling everything sexist — it’s just sad.” The report champions excluding “gendered,” “colonial” or “militarized” language in space — ostensibly rendering common science fiction plot devices such as space exploration and human settlements on other worlds — as unacceptably problematic. The report also claims contemporary space programs “invisiblize” women via “manned” language, which the authors claim force women to “imagine themselves within masculine constructs.” Sims finds that ridiculous, considering the important role women have played in human spaceflight. “Some of our pioneering astronauts have been women. Our former Governor-General was a woman astronaut,” she said. “To see taxpayers’ money wasted on something this sad is annoying.” The report’s opposition to “colonial bias” paints unfavourable associations for science fiction franchises like Star Trek — which for generations referred to space as “The Final Frontier,” and whose lore is based heavily on settlement of star systems across the galaxy. "These approaches normalize violence and exploitation by using colonial-biased terms like ‘exploration’ and ‘conquest’, referring to space as a frontier and terra nullius , and depicting outer space as a hostile and desolate environment that is unpeopled/inhuman and controlled so that it can provide an extractable resource,” notes the report, despite the vacuum of space indeed being a “hostile and desolate” environment unsuited to all known forms of terrestrial life. This isn’t the first time Project Ploughshares have benefitted from DND funding. The report’s grant application lists four other reports dating back to 2019 that received $155,875 in funding from DND’s MINDS program."