Andrew: Seeing that we come from a cultural tradition where the sanctity of individual life isn't of much import, I can't really offer much solace, and since you've requested a refrain from judgement, I shall do so. In addition, being from Malaysia, I can say that the notion of armed conflict is a tangible reality I take a little more seriously, especially with our racial situation. But let me toss you a helpful quote from General Patton:

"In war, the object is not to die for your country, but to make the other bastard die for his."

If it makes you feel any better, the odds of Singapore being involved in a proper war (UN peacekeeping does NOT count) within our lifetime are fairly... slim. If it makes you feel even better (or worse), conscript armies tend to do quite well in war once they are pushed to it - although having seen NSmen do Teletubby dance routines at some camps doesn't necessarily engender much faith in national defense.