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Monday, January 17, 2011

On porn, male desire and sexual identicalness

"The difference between the right word and the almost right word is the difference between lightning and a lightning bug." - Mark Twain

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Hard Core

"The granting of sex is the most powerful weapon women possess in their struggle with men. Yet in each new sexual negotiation a woman has with a man, she not only spends down that capital, she begins at a disadvantage, because the potential losses are always greater for her...

The reactionary political correctness of the 1990s put forth a proposition even more disastrous to women than free love: sexual equality... This is an intellectual swindle that leads women to misjudge male sexuality, which they do at their own emotional and physical peril. Male desire is not a malleable entity that can be constructed through politics, language, or media. Sexuality is not neutral...

He asked if we could have anal sex... “Because that’s the only thing that will make you uncomfortable.” This was, perhaps, the greatest moment of sexual honesty I’ve ever experienced—and without hesitation, I complied. This encounter proves an unpleasant fact that does not fit the feminist script on sexuality: pleasure and displeasure wrap around each other like two snakes.

Pornography, with its garish view of male sexual desire, bares an uncomfortable truth that the women’s-liberation movement has successfully suppressed: men and women have conflicting sexual agendas...

It’s difficult to keep track of whatever wave the current [feminist] “movement” is riding...

I have yet to see a single credible study that links proliferation of pornography to an increase in abuse of women. More important, the sort of sex that Dines envisions—where respect, love, and civic connections are merged into erotically rewarding experience—is utopian (and not perhaps all that enticing)... what sort of “authentic sexuality” would males possess? Dines seems to have in mind a Rousseauistic pygmy race of sexually neutered males; perhaps many feminists (and perhaps many fathers of daughters, and perhaps many sensible and civilized people, for that matter) would applaud this emasculated masculinity as progress—but we’re never going to achieve it...

Porn not only eschews but actively conceals this singular truth: the most brutalizing aspects of sex are not physical. This is made plain by the great, filthy, but far from pornographic Last Tango in Paris, which Pauline Kael described as the “most powerfully erotic movie ever made.”"


Though it has many gems, this is still a problematic piece.

She generalises from random examples to claim that men like brutality and gushes about extreme porn, yet when she claims that mature women are undesired, she is ignoring the non-negligible realms of MILF and even mature - as well as the amateur scene she mentions that can turn anyone into a pornographer.

Also, equality is not the same as identicalness, and while it's true that "the most brutalizing aspects of sex are not physical", this shows the problem of using cultural artefacts as 'evidence': using one novel to make this claim is like claiming Lolita shows that all men are ephebophiles (at least using anecdotes is slightly better - the people and cases concerned are at least real, while cultural works are just ideas)

Addendum: If she read this far into women's rape fantasies, she'd be roundly condemned.
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